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6 Reasons Why Trust Is Broken Unresolved pain: Hurts that happened before the two of you were ever together or earlier in your relationship can lead to a breach of trust. When you haven't dealt with your own pain it's hard to trust others. Lack of connection: Over time couples can struggle with a breakdown in their connection. This can take the form of less talking, less time together and even less sex. When the two of you aren't connected it's easy to look outside of the marriage for connection or satisfaction. This can look like an affair, secret shopping, confiding in others, focused hobbies, etc. Feeling neglected: Every human being has a need to feel valued and desired, especially in your marriage. When other things come first, some will seek out opportunities to feel important or desired. This can manifest itself in affairs both physical and emotional. Boredom: "Variety is the spice of life" and routines in marriage can be both good and bad. The good part is that certain routines just help you function through your day and eliminate the need to always be making decisions. The bad part, boredom can look like you are taking your spouse for granted. You do the same thing, the same way every time. This can be everything from what you have for dinner to where you go on a date to your sexual positions. Sometimes when people get bored they look for excited in other places.
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Feeling nostalgic: People tend to look at the past through rose colored glasses, especially when it comes to past relationships. You don't necessarily remember all of the struggles that you had with an ex, especially when you and your spouse are having difficulties your self. With the rise in social media it's easy to have an ongoing "relationship" with someone in your past. It's also a lot easier to confide in someone who already knows you.
Lack of guardrails: Most couples don't start off their marriage saying things like, "This is how we are going to set up our marriage in regard to friendships, money, telling the truth, etc." More often than not, there seems to be this expectation that things will just go the way that they are supposed to. Unfortunately, without expressed guardrails, the ability to step over the line into lying, being deceptive, and secretive is quite easy.
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