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2014-0323. FAMILY CIRCUS | Week 2 - Marriage We're in the middle of a series on the family and today we want to talk about marriage. We sit here today as a group of imperfect people with imperfect relationships, and unfortunately it seems like there's this thing when you walk into a building like this that you have to throw on some sort of a look like your relationship probably is together. And we just want to right now just own the fact that they are imperfect relationships. We're going to take off the masks and just take a moment to sit back and have a conversation about this. Even as I look at my own relationship, I was reminded yesterday of the imperfectness of it. We were having a bunch of people over for breakfast yesterday morning, actually for a meeting that I had arranged that I just basically told everyone, "Hey, my wife will cook for us," and went home and told her she's going to cook breakfast for us. So she gets up at 4:30 yesterday morning to make breakfast, and I just kept sleeping in real nice and fun until about ten minutes before everyone is supposed to arrive and I dart downstairs and go, "Hey, how can I help?" Well, it was all done. Yeah, I mean, it's just sort of expected, you know, and people start walking in. And I look at my wife and just pull a brain-dead moment. I go, "Why isn't the music on?" And it was just like, I just saw this look on her face like, "You've gotta be kidding! I've been up since 4:30 baking and getting everything ready all pretty for you and your guys, and you wonder why the music's not on?" And so I get it. You know, we think about marriage—it's one imperfect person connecting with another imperfect person in this thing called marriage where all of our imperfections are like massively, massively magnified, so most of us get that here today. I know that as we enter into this room today, there are some of us in this room today that you would by your own admission say, "Hey, I have a great marriage." I do hope that in the course of the next few moments I might say something that will help make your great marriage greater, but the research says this: that people in this room would say that only one out of three marriages are great. Do you know what that means? Two out of three aren't, and I understand that. I understand that there are some of you in this room right now that are just about at your lowest; you're exhausted from it, you've had about enough. I understand there are probably those here who have the paperwork filled out or have the attorney on auto-dial. I also understand that in this room there are those who are divorced. We don't come to this message today from a position of judgment. We come from a position of the Word of God. I understand also that there are some of you in this room today that are single, and you hope to be married someday. The good news is we can get out ahead of some of this stuff some people in here are weighted down over today. We have the manual [holds up Bible] and I think before you jump it would be a great idea to read the manual and figure out what it says about the next step. So this is what I want for you today: I'm going to just share, really, what it all comes down to it it's just one really simple, little point that I believe that if all of us here wherever we're at in that group of people, I believe that when we hear it we're going to go "I get it" and we're going to have to go do something with that. And so what I want for you is that you'll be able to do something with that today, so as you leave here today either the relationship that you're today or the relationship that you'll have someday will be so much better. So I'm going to paint a picture for you. You're familiar with the picture. All of you are familiar with the picture. It's called dating. Remember those dates that you used to have? And remember asking that person out and all of a sudden that rush that would come from the "yes" that would come with that? I still remember showing up at the front porch of Anne's house for our first date, and I went to this flower place and I'd get these flowers there and whenever I'd buy a bouquet of flowers there, it was like a bushel basket full of flowers. It was the craziest thing. For the same price a normal bouquet, I'd get just this [demonstrates large amount with his arms], and so I'm showing up at her door with this huge thing of flowers. I mean, she had to feel loved at that moment. And on top of that, I had this way cool thing. My wife has a sister that's 18 years younger that she is, and I knew that, and so I separated out a couple of flowers and I took them for her sister that day; worked out beautiful. [laughter] Okay, you know the program.

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2014-0323. FAMILY CIRCUS | Week 2 - Marriage I remember that night when I got back I'd brought her back to her house after the first date her grandma lived with them and she had taken this bouquet of flowers and she had little sprigs all over the house. Those flowers had been placed all over the house that night, but you can picture that first date program. So on that first date you go out, and you go out to the car and you open the door for her and she's thinking, "Whoa! A gentleman. Well, where'd this—I didn't know this existed! But how cool is this." Close the door, go around to the front door, go to the restaurant, and he's got a reservation, and you're going, "Wow, how cool is this." And he pulls your chair back, slides it back in, and as the woman you're going, "Wow! This is the coolest thing! This guy is amazing! This is the guy I didn't think existed anymore!" And you have this wonderful conversation at dinner, and then finally at the end of dinner he actually pays. He didn't forget his wallet like the rest of those losers used to and you're going, "Wow! This is cool!" And all of a sudden, you know, your mind is just starting to light up and then he goes, "Hey, do you want to go to a movie?" And you say yes and you go to this movie, and it's not just any old movie, it's a great movie and it's clean and you're going, "You're kidding! He chose this movie?" And you're enjoying it and all of a sudden he goes, "Hey, let's go out for some ice cream" —and you know the rest of the story. It's just like wow, this guy's this complete gentleman, this guy is amazing, everything he said, and pretty soon as a result of that he calls back a second time. And pretty soon you're going out more often and you're starting to have some communication and you're starting some talks and you're starting to talk about life and you're finding out, Oh, wow! Your favorite color is the same as mine. That is so cool! Oh, wow! You love vacationing in the same place. How many dogs do you want? Oh, that's so cool! What kind – oh, wow! And we're like this, and there's this ongoing thing that every time you find out something new about this person it's over the top, and then you're thinking all you can think is what can I do for him and he's thinking what can I do for her? And it's just like top the other person, each day, each thing, each card, each note, each flower, every box of candy, whatever it may be activity, you're just going, "I can't believe this." And this relationship begins to skyrocket and you think, "I didn't think it was possible." And you're just over the top blown away by this relationship that you found yourself in. What happens next? I mean, it's a no-brainer. I mean, at that point it's like you begin to say, "Hey, uhm, you know, someday when we consider getting married." "Hey, what do you think about that?" And all of a sudden begin to talk and begin to throw stuff back and forth, and the hopes and the dreams, and you're waiting to figure out when that ring's going to show up and all of a sudden you begin to talk commitment. You begin to talk covenant. You begin to talk marriage. And all of a sudden you're engaged, and all of a sudden you're setting the date—I mean, these things just continue to just grow and build and build and build and build. Sometime at this point, and I don't know when it is, I don't know if it's when you originally start talking about it. I don't know if it's when you get engaged. I don't know if it's on the wedding day. I don't know if it's a week after you're married. I don't know what the timing is on this, but it does have something to do with commitment and covenant that something major changes. You move from being this cool couple that everything is awesome to moving towards commitment. Let me show you, it goes something like this. [Takes off sweater, throws it on the floor, grabs suit coat from chair and puts it on] And in the moment that you throw that sweater on the floor, last hour my wife was in the service and I saw her look at me, "You just threw that on the floor." And a bell goes off in your head, "I thought this guy was awesome. He just threw his sweater on the floor. I thought he folded his sweater when he took it off. This–whoa." And there's like red flags that go up. Like, uh-oh. We need to be getting talking about some stuff here. In my house, we pick up the sweater. If you're going to be married to me, you're going to pick up the sweater. And the guy begins to say, "Yeah, you know what. I was thinking about this, too." He says, "You know, when we get married, you know, it's going to be great that we're going to have two incomes and you know what, I'll take care of paying the rent but, you know, will you take care of the utilities?" And she goes, "Yeah, but are you going to take care of the dog food because you want a lot of dogs. I didn't want that many dogs, but—." And all of a sudden this crazy negotiation begins going on and there's this scorecard being kept. And all of a sudden both sides are protecting going, "Wait a minute. This is about me and my expectations." "I expected him to be this way." "I expected her to be this way." –2–

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I've got to tell you a story. I told it last hour. I haven't got yelled at yet, so I think I'll risk it. Okay? You have to be careful sometimes. So Anne and I got married and I don't know if it was a week or a month after we were married, but we're sitting on the couch. You know, the newly married thing, I've got my arm around her and I'm going, "This is so cool. This is what it was meant to be." And then I felt the urge to do something that I had resisted all the way through dating and I thought I could do it without making a sound [laughter], and then I smelled it. [laughter] And then I waited. [laughter] I knew it what was coming. I just knew, I just knew—but what happened next I could have never expected. She goes, "Honey, is something burning?" [laughter] I went, "Yes! I've got the best wife! This is so cool!" I was like, "Nah." You've got to always deny it, right? "I don't smell anything." That should have been her first clue. [He sniffs] "Nope." She's going [sniffing], "It's gone." I go, "Oh, good." Well, now I feel a little more sure of myself I thought I could continue [laughter] and a couple moments later she goes, "There's that smell again." [sniffing] "That's weird. It's peculiar smelling. It smells like something is burning." "Weird. I'm not smelling anything." The third time, I'm – I mean, I'm rejoicing at this point! The third time she goes, "Lee!" [jumps away from the couch] She's like sniffing and goes, "You made me suck that all in and smell that! Waaaaaah!" And I realized that Lee didn't turn out to be this amazing guy that she had hoped for. And you get it, you understand that, but it's irrelevant because as a group of imperfect people we're smart enough to get it that that other person isn't going to be that perfect person that we once so sought that we couldn't see any flaw in. Let's go down another path. You know this path, you understand this, you'll be able to tell me the answers to this. So, there's three kinds of love. The first one is eros, and that's that physical love between a man and a woman, and it's just an awesome thing, but when things aren't going well it doesn't fix things and if it does, it's only a short-term fix. The second kind of love is named after this city. It's phileo love which means brotherly love. It talks about that kindness and that adoration and that affirmation. We need more of that kind of love here in Philadelphia. We need to like sort of push people to live up to our name in this town. That brotherly love, and yet while that's an awesome kind of love, it is one that you began feeling for the other person it comes up a bit short. There's times when it's sort of neat, you know, we're like brothers, we're like brother-sister, we have that— but it's not enough. It doesn't fix when things get tough in a marriage. There's a third kind of love; it's agape. See, you don't need me to preach this message, you know it, but we're just going to have this conversation and think out loud a little about it. Refresh our brains on this. Agape love is a God kind of love. It's a self-sacrificing kind of love. It is this kind of love that's going to help us think through what we're going to talk about here today. In the New Testament of your Bible God oftentimes uses the metaphor of the Church as the Bride of Christ. So there's this picture of Christ in the Church and what Christ does for the Church that begins to draw a picture that we can actually live out in our own marriages that begins to inform us on what marriage should look like, and it begins with agape love. What's that look like? It looks like a self-sacrificing kind of love; a kind of love that says it's not about what's in it for me, but rather what I do for you. And so when Jesus goes to the cross and dies on the cross, does He need that? No. What He knows going to the cross is that His Bride, the Church, the people of the world, are lost; totally incapable of getting to God without Him. They're going to die in their sins, be unforgiven for eternity, and He says, "I don't want that. I love the world way too much, and so I am going to go to the cross. I'm going to sacrifice myself there and I'm going to die." So that's this agape kind of love, and that's the kind of love that Jesus shows here. When Jesus goes to the cross and dies, he doesn't necessarily look down and say as he's hanging there on that cross, "Boy, I sure like those sins that Lee does. That's neat. I'm so glad I get to die for those." It doesn't feel good. Understand those sins on the cross—they're horrible—and yet we know He goes there and hangs and dies to take our place. He wants to because he loves us so much, not because it's easy, not because he feels it, not because it feels good; He wants to do so. 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2014-0323. FAMILY CIRCUS | Week 2 - Marriage going to become really, really helpful. Okay, if you start at the right side of your Bible and turn left you'll get there pretty quick. If you don't have a Bible, grab one from the chair in front of you. If you want to keep it, you can; there's more Bibles out in the Community Café afterwards. We want you to take a Bible for free. It's our gift to you; we want you reading it. We want you in it. Chapter 5 of Ephesians, verse 21, begins to throw out the principle that I would love for you to hear today, the principle that I'd love for you to grab today. The first word of chapter 5, verse 21, says this: 21

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By the way, that word is just sort of like this momentary word that causes us to shut down, glaze over and go, "No. Let's talk about something else right now. If that's where you're going on the whole marriage thing, Pastor, I don't want to go there." I can't tell you how many times I have done weddings where the couple has said, "Now listen, please don't bring up that "s" word." And it's mostly because we don't really have a good understanding of that "s" word. So let me just say this really simply. What that means is the word "sub", to place yourself under someone else. Now here's what's going to happen. When we were in the dating mode, it was like all about placing ourselves under the other person, that's why we had that stupid conversation that we all hated, "Where do you want to go to dinner?" "I don't know. Where do you want to go?" "I don't know. Wherever you want to go. It's your night." And it goes back and forth. Why did we have that conversation? Because we wanted to please that other person. It didn't matter where they wanted to go, it didn't matter how much it cost, it didn't matter how the food tasted, we wanted to go there, too, because we would place ourselves under it. We would place our wants, our desires, underneath the other person. That's submit. It's just that simple. It's where I say my desires are not that important. What I want is not that important. It sounds pretty basic. It sounds pretty cool. Something weird happened when we changed from dating to commitment; something changed and it all became about what I want, and it all became about me. And all of a sudden we go into this crazy, weird negotiated settlement moment, okay? It's sort of this scorekeeping thing where it's like—and a lot of you today that have what we would call a good marriage in here—you have mastered the art of negotiated settlement. You can go out with your friends if I can buy this much makeup. And the marriage goes [demonstrates balancing scale with hands; balances out] Oh, good. Okay? If you meet my physical needs, I'll have dinner ready for you when I get home. You pay the mortgage; I'll take care of cleaning up the dog poop. And what ends up happening is it's all about keeping score and it's keeping that balance. And some of you are playing that line, but you know push on that one little thing and this thing's [balance scale] going to go down and all of a sudden you're dealing with weeks of mess and you're in a horrible, weird spot. That's how most people are living their lives. That's why the stress and the tension are just about ready to blow. That's why oftentimes you hear, "It all blew up last night." Because that equilibrium just got turned off. When God begins to talk to us about marriage, for that matter relationships, he says this in 5:21, he says: 21

submitting to one another

— and then He says — out of reverence for Christ. — EPHESIANS 5:21

Let me back up a second, though. This is so cool. The other night I saw something happen and, uh, the kids said, "Hey, can we have ice cream?" They love ice cream, and they love coffee ice cream. In fact, for those of you Wawa fans, they love Turkey Hill coffee ice cream, okay? So we had some Turkey Hill ice cream in the freezer and Matthew open the freezer and pulls out the Turkey Hill ice cream, and as he pulled it out I saw him go like this with it which meant it was really empty. And so he pulled out the other inferior ice cream out of the freezer and he set it on the countertop, and as he did so I hear him say this, "Noel," that's his sister, "Noel, there's not enough coffee ice cream for two of us. I dipped out the coffee ice cream for you." And I saw him there dipping out the inferior stuff and putting it in his bowl.

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2014-0323. FAMILY CIRCUS | Week 2 - Marriage Now here's what I know for certain is he expected nothing in return for that. It wasn't like, "Well, then you can use my iPad for an hour." A negotiated settlement. For him it was just I'm going to do this. One of the things Anne has done a phenomenal job with our kids is saying, "Hey, the way you treat each other, someday you're going to treat your spouse that way." And I don't know about you, but the way they treat each other sometimes in the home it's like waaaahh! This isn't going well! And when this whole transaction started taking place, I'm just thinking I know where this is headed. There's not enough coffee ice cream here, pretty soon it's going to be I want it, you want it, I want it, I need it, can I have it, I called it first. Oops! It fell on the floor. You know, funny how it is. And now everyone's going to bed early, and you know, everyone's upset. I knew where this was headed, and when all of a sudden it didn't go there I'm just like, "OoOOoo, angels are coming down from Heaven. How does this happen?" It's like this parenting moment and we're like, "Wow." And it's that moment that when we in our marriages say, "It's not about what I want. I want coffee ice cream. It's not about my expectations of how this day is supposed to go, this vacation is supposed to go, this financial thing. This is not about what a great money manager he is. This is not about how phenomenally he handled the kids or what he does with his spare time. It's saying I'm going to drop my expectations and I'm going to place them under his needs and I'm going to care about his needs. I'm going to care about her needs. I'm going to make her the most important thing. I'm going to make him the most important thing. I'm placing me under that person. That's submitting. I don't care if it's work or church or home, there's this thing in our society that says we don't do that. Well, we do it until we don't like what they say. We do it until they don't please us, and we wonder why our relationships are falling apart at work, at home, in our marriage. Because this scorekeeping, this negotiated settlement, doesn't make for a great marriage and it doesn't work forever, and God says what I have for you is much better. When you both look at each other and say I'm going to come in and put my needs below yours and I'm just going after you, how can I care for you. Somehow in the midst of that He says this is out of reverence for Christ. Somehow in the midst of this He's saying I know this won't sit well with you, I know this isn't going to feel good, I know this isn't going to feel right, but here's all I want you to do: think about how you feel about Jesus and do it for that reason. Show that submission going, you know, that's what Jesus did and this is my way of showing love and reverence for Jesus. I hear it all the time in here, "Do we show enough reverence?" No, this is how He says you show reverence, submit to one another. You submit your needs and your wants and your expectations to the other person, and He says when you do that, it's going to show that you're reverencing Jesus. I'm stalling because you've read ahead to the next verse, because this next verse is the one that causes everyone to go [screams], but I'm going to suggest to you that God knows more than we do and if we do it God's way, we'd see blessings. Let me show you this. Verse 22: 22

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. — EPHESIANS 5:22

There's a real pushback to this mentality in our world because we've seen so many abuses to it. We can spend our time talking about the abuses or we can say what God means here. When we look at this word "submit" it's a Greek word in the Greek military, in the military usage it was sort of used in terms of soldiers lining up behind their commander, the chain of command, the chain of authority. Those of you who have been in the military, you totally get that. In secular society and in secular literature it meant this, it meant a voluntary attitude of giving in, of cooperating with of assuming responsibility. I want to capture that word "voluntarily" because this isn't the man going, "Submit!" This is the wife choosing to submit. The way we can understand this is to go back to the picture that God keeps on giving us when he shows us this metaphor of Christ in the Church. And if you're taking notes, write down John 10:18 because it's in John 10:18 that we read these words.

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No one takes it from me, but I lay it down of my own accord. I have authority to lay it down, and I have authority to take it up again. This charge I have received from my Father.” — JOHN 10:18

Jesus says they didn't take my life from me—do you remember this?—I laid down my life. In other words, Jesus wasn't forced into that, he chose to do that out of love. That was His choice. If they can take his life, they're the most powerful. But when He lays down his life, he's the most powerful because he does so voluntarily. Remember I read the definition of this word in the Greek? It has to do with a voluntary giving up; voluntarily placing yourself underneath. You say, okay, Jesus voluntarily does that, I'm not quite sure how I get to that place or why I would want to voluntarily do that even if it makes me the most powerful person because that's sort of a risky place to put myself in. I understand a lot of people found themselves in a bad spot voluntarily placing themselves there, but if you turn your Bible one page to the right in Ephesians you end up in the book of Philippians, and Philippians chapter 2 talks about exactly what Jesus did. I love verse 4, I mean, it's saying everything we’re saying here. Are you ready for this? It says: 4

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. 5 Have this mind among yourselves, Now it's going to go to Jesus and say how he did it. So it says we can do this. This isn't just a God thing only God can do, this is something we can do. He says: 5

Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, 6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped,

That's one of the arguments oftentimes. Well, this is putting women down. Oh, no, we're not saying that for a minute! Jesus was God, fully God, he never stopped being God. When you think of the value of a person, when we're talking about this idea of submission it's not somehow lowering the value of a person, it's a choice of where you line up at a given point. So He didn't consider equality with God a thing to be grasped: 7

but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. 8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Okay, remember that death on a cross? They didn't take His life. He voluntarily laid it down. Next verse, verse 9. What happens when you voluntarily lay down your life? 9

Therefore God has highly exalted him — PHILIPPIANS 2:4-9

How does Jesus get glory from God? He chooses to voluntarily lay down his life. He chooses to submit even though he is equal with God. And there seems to me to be in this choice here of giving up, verse 22: 22

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. — EPHESIANS 5:22

"As to the Lord" piece is as He did it. And when we voluntarily submit there is glory for that. The question is: Do I want to buy this? Do I want to follow this? Here's one of the little setbacks. There's another word in the Greek language that describes a similar concept. The first word sounds very similar to the second word, but it's not the same. The second word speaks of an obedience, an immediate obedience, but here's what's interesting. It always is referring to children because, we'll talk about parenting next week, with parenting, with children we expect first time obedience. But that's not what we're talking about in submission. We're talking about placing our needs, our wants and desires under someone else. What if, what if the other person doesn't reciprocate? What if I'm just sort of hung out there alone on this? I guess we stop a moment and just go, "Okay, am I willing to think that somehow God knows what he's talking about here, and if we do it God's way we'll get God's results?" –6–

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Let me take you to one more verse. Guys, ladies are like "Yes!" Verse 25: 25

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

What did Jesus do for the Church? He gave himself up for it; died for the Church. Then He gives some more information: 26

that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, — EPHESIANS 5:25-27

So what he's saying here is husbands, how much should you love your wife? You should love them so much that you would die for them. Love them so much that all you can think of is blessing your wife, caring for her, providing for her, meeting her needs, making her look beautiful, making her look wonderful in front of other people, making her look well before God. Where you're standing up as the man of the family going, "Her success, her beauty, her godliness, her feeling loved, her feeling secure, her feeling taken care of is dependent on me loving her that much even if that leads me to die." You're like, okay, yeah, sometimes that makes me feel like dying. [laughter] Here's what he's going to say. He's going to say time out for a minute. What is it that every time it happens you're running into that brick wall with her? Is it going out with your friends on that night that she doesn't like, that she says you're different when you come home from? You say, "Honey, I love you so much. I love you like Christ loved the Church that I would die for you. I will die to my desire to go hang out with my buddies and I will stop doing that." "I love you so much"—maybe you have a habit that every time you—you say, "I'm done with that." You look at her and you say whatever I have to give up. You say don't say the sports word. Remember back there in dating? Remember before all this changed? You would have given up your afternoon to go for a bike ride with her or to go sit on a bench with her and not watch TV. Now you can't even hear her. She's saying, "Listen to me; talk to me." "I love you so much, honey, I'll turn the TV off." "I love you so much that when I walk in the door I'll turn off my cellphone. I'll turn off my iPad." "I love you so much that that hobby I know you hate the garage being full with it, I'm done. If that's what's"—no, now don't get me wrong. Guys, you don't have to go home and kill all these things, but if you know that that's the thing that's getting in the way, how much do I love her? At what point am I willing to place my needs and my wants and my expectations and the me, me, me underneath her and say, "What you have is the most important. I will love you so much, so much so that I will die to the things that matter most to me so as to make you happy and to bless you, and to make you feel secure and loved." And that's what Jesus says. When you do so—I want you to hear this—this is so cool. When you do that Jesus says gentlemen, men, you get the opportunity to bring a message from God to say this is how much God loves you. You get to just pour onto your wife the love of God and you become a conduit for that. You become a living illustration of how much God loves your wife, and you get to bring that to her every day. So here's what I'm just going to wrap up with. I shared with you in the beginning what I want for you today is that you'll hear something here today, a simple little thing that's difficult but is something you can put into practice today. Moving from this place that we got somewhere where it became about me and what I want and my expectations, back to that day when it was all about what she wanted, when it was all about what he wanted. When it was about meeting their needs and caring for them, placing my wants and desires under them. So here's what I just want to throw out to you: What if this week you just go, "Okay, for the next seven days I'm going to do that." The great news is that a week from now you can stop, but here's what I think. I think at the end of that week you're going to see some change taking place that you're going to go, "I don't ever want to go back." Because I do think there is something spiritual going on in this. This is the secret that people are spending millions of dollars a week on trying to figure out how to fix it; going in for therapy and care, taking medication, talking to their friends, complaining at work over the coffee. If we take –7–

2014-0323. FAMILY CIRCUS | Week 2 - Marriage this one thing and go I'm going to do this: Husbands, love your wives. Wives, submit to your husbands. Between the two of you submit to each other, I think we'd see God blessing throughout this place and next week there'd be all sorts of testimonies: "Wow, God just did something crazy wild." VIMEO: https://vimeo.com/89847729 SCRIPTURE QUOTATIONS ARE FROM THE HOLY BIBLE, ENGLISH STANDARD VERSION (ESV). COPYRIGHT © 2001 BY CROSSWAY BIBLES, A DIVISION OF GOOD NEWS PUBLISHERS COPYRIGHT © 2014 – LEE WIGGINS – ALL RIGHTS RESERVED.

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