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RE|ENGAGE FACILITATORS’ GUIDE In preparation . . . • Prepare ahead of time with your spouse. Be sure to not only discuss the materials but also work out who will lead each part of the small group time to help with a natural flow. • Model honesty and vulnerability to the group about yourself and your marriage, having discussed with your spouse ahead of time what you will share. Consider sharing your testimony in the first or second group time. • Model biblical conflict resolution in your own life and marriage, and share struggles and successes with the group. • Remember that not all participants are believers. Be ready to share your story of grace and to articulate the gospel clearly and concisely. • Remember that not all participants attend or are members at your church. Avoid using too many words or concepts that are culturally bound to the church and use lay terms when you can. • Preview the following week’s “action point question” prior to group time to alert participants to action items. • Success in Re|Engage is just getting couples to talk about their marriage. Some participants may experience major life change during the time the group meets, and some may have seeds planted for future growth. In the first meeting… • Ice-‐breaker questions can be fun and useful to open and to foster positive conversation. • Ask each couple about expectations they may have for the Re|Engage process. • Remind them that you are facilitators there to help the group stay focused and to guide when necessary. You are not counselors or teachers. • Read the following page’s list of five small group characteristics in order to set the basic “ground rules” to establish the small group as a safe place. Revisit these from time to time as it will help your group. • Use the facilitator and participant guides, teaching times, and testimonies to start conversations, then let your group share and discuss.
In weekly group time . . . • Open in prayer, pray topically or scripturally, based on the lesson or evening’s teaching/testimony. • Begin each session asking their main take-‐away from the teaching/testimony they have just heard in the large group time. • Your group may or may not gel immediately, be patient. Be ready to facilitate and help them move towards biblical community, but do not force it. (Principles of biblical community are described in Hebrews 10:24-‐25 and Acts 2). • Allow uncomfortable silences. Your job is to help the conversation get going and stay going in the right direction but not to teach. Resist the urge to say something profound. • Make sure that everyone takes turns talking instead of talking over each other or having multiple conversations at once. • Remind participants to focus primarily on themselves in the lesson instead of their spouses.
RE|ENGAGE SMALL GROUP The following characteristics will contribute to a safe and successful Re|Engage small group experience for couples. 1. Successful small groups have a balance of each person getting to contribute and share without any one person or couple dominating the group’s time and attention. So, don’t talk too little and don’t talk too much. 2. Avoid the temptation to try to fix one another. Safe and successful small groups are characterized by support rather than advice-‐giving. Trying to “fix” someone else is usually a sign that we don’t want to deal with our own stuff. 3. Even though you are at Re|Engage as a couple, focus on your own individual thoughts and feelings as you share with the group. Please don’t use your sharing as an opportunity to harm someone else. 4. Scripture calls us to refrain from gossip. Please operate under the direction of God’s Word in the handling of information shared within the group. In order to provide a safe environment for your group, you must commit not to share information about one another outside the group except in the event of the threat of physical, emotional, or spiritual injury and then only under the guidance of a Re|Engage leader. 5. In Re|Engage, each person should be allowed to share without interruptions. However, like most other successful conversations, others are free to contribute with comments or observations only to the extent that it is helpful for the person or couple that is sharing.