Session 2: Remove Your Masks

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Session 2: Remove Your Masks

Think about how you present yourself to the world. What masks (or roles) do you wear in your life? In your marriage? _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________ Where have your images of perfection come from? (Media, Other People’s Comments, Facebook, “Keeping Up with the Jones’s) _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________

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In a Perfect World You are a perfect person, With a perfect body, Wearing perfect clothes, Married to a perfect spouse, Working at a perfect job, Driving a perfect car, Living in a perfect house, Raising a perfect family. There’s only one problem… Perfection does not exist. © 2013 Alisa DiLorenzo Marriage is the union of two imperfect people creating a life together. You both know that you are imperfect. What has been the impact (actions, thoughts, etc.) on your marriage of wearing your masks? _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________ In order to truly strengthen the bonds between the two of you and create the marriage that you desire you have to make a decision: I will NO LONGER wear masks around my husband/wife. I will present myself as I truly am. © 2013 ONE Extraordinary Marriage | www.OneExtraordinaryMarriage.com

Steps to Taking Off the Masks: 1. Commit to being truthful 2. Share from your heart 3. Share the scary parts 4. Keep your word

In order to take off the masks you have to start talking again.

www.OneExtraordinaryMarriage.com Don’t panic! You are not going to do all 77 questions at one time! These 77 Questions cover all 6 forms of intimacy and yes, you can pick and choose the order that you want to answer them. 1. 2. 3. 4.

Commit to do one question per day for 77 days. Set aside 10-15 minutes per day to have the conversation. Take turns starting the conversation. Truly listen to your spouse’s words. Don’t interrupt or criticize.

Sample Questions: ● If your marriage was a sport, which sport would it be? Why? ● What 3 activities re-energize you? ● What changes could you make to your room to make it a Love Shack? ● What makes you come alive? ● What blessings have we seen in your marriage? Marriages around the world have been impacted by this one decision to take off the masks and start being authentic again.

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In what areas of your marriage are you ready to be transparent? _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________ ******** The strongest love is the love that can demonstrate its fragility. -Paul Coehlo

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