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DIRE C TI O NS: This is a format to work through with a spouse or other relationship that has been damaged by sin. Complete the “Ways Wrong/Wronged” worksheet in preparation for this time. Consider: Are you prepared to confess your sins? Are you prepared to forgive this other person fully and freely for any sins they confess? If no: Discuss, consider, and pray about your hesitations. If yes: Turn and face the other person. Decide who will start the process of renewing your relationship by clearing out any old or lingering hurts. STEP ONE: CONFESSION The person who starts begins by confessing ways they have wronged the other person. (Use th e W ron g/W ron ged worksheet as a starting point) When you are finished confessing, ask if there are any sins you committed against them you did not mention, or that you need to say something more about, or if they need clarification on any point. If so, discuss these issues until there is agreement that real sin has occurred and confession is made. (Note: Perceived wrongs which the confessor does not believe they have committed should not be confessed.) STEP TWO: SEEKING FORGIVENESS The person who confessed their sin should then ask the other person for forgiveness. You should ask using the actual words “Will you forgive me?” (Note that a question like, “Can you forgive me?” is an operational question which avoids the humility required in putting yourself at the mercy of the other person.) STEP THREE: FORGIVENESS The person to whom the question is addressed should respond with “I forgive you.” (Not “I will” or “Yes”, etc) STEP FOUR: REPEAT Repeat the process with the other person. © 200 7, Assoc iat ion of Bib lical Couns elo rs For use by cu rr ent mem be rs onl y!