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Care And Discipleship Student Handbook - Level 1 volume 1.4
© 2014 IBCD. Unauthorized duplication without express written permission is prohibited.
Care & Discipleship Training
Welcome to the Care and Discipleship Course! This material has been designed for people who have a passion to see believers equipped to disciple and counsel one another with the Word of God. Whether you are an individual seeking to better equip yourself to serve the body, a church leader looking for a way to train up members of your congregation, or a group of people with a vision to cultivate an atmosphere of one-another care in your own local church, this course will be a valuable tool for you. The Care and Discipleship Course offers a variety of materials which will assist you in completing Levels 1 and 2 of the Care and Discipleship Certification process. It is composed of 38 sessions ranging from foundational principles to key counseling issues. The CDC Handbook contains complete outlines of each session, in addition to lists of additional helpful resources. All texts have been specifically tailored to accompany the video series. It also perfectly supplements the audio series, which is available for free on IBCD’s website. The Care and Discipleship Leader’s Handbook is designed to assist those who are leading others through the course. While the basic content is the same, it includes special sections to provide you with practical helps to facilitate discussion, as well as indications of appropriate times to do so. The Student Handbook contains the same content, but the discussion sections are not included.
Level 1: Sessions 1-20 This introduction to biblical counseling is designed to develop an understanding of how the sufficiency of Scripture impacts how to view life’s struggles, especially in relation to psychology. It also explores the general principles involved in biblical counseling and how to practically apply them in specific situations including anger, conflict, depression, fear, and temptation.
Level 2: Sessions 21-38 This material builds on the foundation laid in Level 1, but focuses specifically on biblical views of marriage and parenting and how to deal with common problems in these areas. The intricacies of the mind/body issues in biblical counseling are also explored, especially regarding the use of psychotropic drugs. The course concludes with teaching on understanding God’s will.
Appendix: CDC Certification Forms The Appendix in the Student Handbook contains the appropriate forms for those seeking certification through IBCD. Each Handbook contains the forms for the corresponding level. For an even more extensive list of resources, including homework assignments, additional outlines, articles and other resources as well as the most updated certification forms, please visit the website at http://www.ibcd.org.
Course Components As you work through the Handbook you will become familiar with several icons that have been implemented to assist you in navigating through the various aspects of the curriculum and the resources we have to offer you for each topic. Below is a list of each with a description:
Videos Marks which video session (or audio track) corresponds to each outline.
Audios Indicates helpful audios that can be referred to for further study on a given topic. These audios can be found on the website and are also embedded on each DVD (to be accessed with a computer).
Books Indicates suggested books for further study.
Booklets Indicates suggested booklets and pamphlets for further reading.
Supplemental Resources Indicates other helpful homework resources, outlines and handouts that are available to you on our website.
Discussion Sections The Leader’s Guide includes discussion boxes with helpful questions to facilitate the course with a group. We understand that every group setting has its own time contraints, so we have timestamped each discussion section during logical breaks in the flow of the material rather than in uniform time segments. This allows for leaders to plan when they want to break each session and gives them flexiblity regarding the discussion of the material.
The IBCD Care & Discipleship Certification (CDC) is designed to help churches develop one another care in the life of their own local congregations. All the material can be studied individually or as part of a group. Each level can be audited for free, or you may choose to complete the required paperwork and payment to receive certification from IBCD for each level.
Level 1 The first level of the certification process involves five steps. 1) Complete Section 1 of the Care & Discipleship Course. 2) Take the 10 question, open note, open Bible exam for Level 1. 3) Listen to any 3 electives from IBCD’s messages on specific counseling issues. Any messages on the website, other than those in the Care & Discipleship Course, count as electives. 4) Request an interview with a church leader who deals with pastoral care and complete the CDC interview form. 5) Complete and submit the application form to the IBCD Office.
Level 2 The second level of the certification process involves five steps. 1) Complete Section 2 of the Care & Discipleship Course. 2) Take the 10 question, open note, open Bible exam for Level 2. 3) Listen to any 3 electives from IBCD’s messages on specific counseling issues. Any messages on the website, other than those in the Care & Discipleship Course, count as electives. 4) Request an interview with a church leader who deals with pastoral care and complete the CDC interview form. 5) Complete and submit the application form to the IBCD Office.
Level 3 This final level is aimed at the integration and development of all that has been covered in Levels 1 and 2. Level 3 of the certification process involves four steps. 1) Read and submit a response paper for two texts: The Peacemaker by Ken Sande and Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands by Paul Tripp. 2) Observe 10 hours of counseling with an ACBC certified biblical counselor. If you are unable to do this live through IBCD, videos are available to complete this requirement. 3) Request an interview with a church leader who deals with pastoral care and complete the CDC interview form. 4) Complete and submit the application form to the IBCD office.
To learn more visit: www.ibcd.org/cdc
We believe that certification from the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (ACBC) is a very helpful process for individuals pursuing biblical counseling training, and it is incredibly beneficial to the local church. All of the training in IBCD Care & Discipleship Levels 1-3 has been designed to assist people in pursuing ACBC Certification. We have found that many people who are first being introduced to biblical counseling are not immediately ready to pursue the rigors of the ACBC process. The CDC program breaks the ACBC process into smaller steps with certifications along the way to indicate overall progress. One who has completed CDC Levels 1-3 will find himself very prepared to continue the final steps required to receive ACBCC Certification if desired. Those seeking ACBC Certification from the start do not need to take the CDC Course to become certified. IBCD’s CDC material, however, can be used to meet ACBC’s requirements. Here is a description of how the CDC Course can be used toward ACBC Certification:
Phase 1.1 of ACBC Certification is to complete a Basic Training Course. The IBCD CDC Level 1 and Level 2 material is an approved Basic Training Course. Watching all of Levels 1 and 2 on DVD or listening to it on mp3 meets this Phase 1.1 requirement. You do not have to do the CDC assignments for ACBC, nor do you have to communicate with IBCD that you are using our course. Your completion of the material is indicated when you fill out the ACBC application, and it can be done as follows: ACBC certified agency where Basic Training Course was completed: ACBC Certified Agency: IBCD Date: dates you listened to/watched the material City: your city State: your state Instructors: Jim Newheiser, Laura Hendrickson Name of course taken: IBCD Care & Discipleship Course Phase 1.2 of ACBC Certification is to complete a minimum of 10 hours of counseling observation of a ACBC certified counselor. This is also a requirement of CDC Level 3. Phase 1.3 of ACBC Certification is a reading requirement of 1,000 pages from the Approved Reading List. CDC Level 3 requires you to complete a total of 500 pages of reading from two books on the ACBC Approved Reading List, The Peacemaker by Ken Sande, and Instruments in the Redeemer’s Hands by Paul Tripp. The remaining ACBC requirements to be fulfilled by the individual are: Phase 1.3 - finish an additional 500 pages of reading Phase 2 - Exams and Application Phase 3 - Supervision Counseling More information can be found at www.biblicalcounseling.com/certification
I would like to give thanks to those who have spent many hours making this handbook as helpful as possible - Christina, Jackie, Pat, and Craig. We are greatly indebted to George Scipione, founder of IBCD, who laid the foundation for this material. I pray that God’s people are blessed through your labors. Jim Newheiser June 2013
Table Of Contents Sessions 1-20 Fundamentals What Is Biblical Counseling? Part 1 (CDC 1) ........................................................................................................1 What Is Biblical Counseling? Part 2 (CDC 2) ........................................................................................................5 What Is Biblical Counseling? Part 3 (CDC 3) ........................................................................................................7 Methodology General Principles of Biblical Counseling Part 1 (CDC 4) ..............................................................................13 General Principles of Biblical Counseling Part 2 (CDC 5) ..............................................................................19 General Principles of Biblical Counseling Part 3 (CDC 6) ..............................................................................23 Practice How Do People Change Part 1 (CDC 7) .............................................................................................................27 How Do People Change Part 2 (CDC 8) .............................................................................................................33 Theology and Biblical Counseling (CDC 9) .......................................................................................................37 Peacemaking Part 1 (CDC 10) ................................................................................................................................41 Peacemaking Part 2 (CDC 11) ................................................................................................................................45 Peacemaking Part 3 (CDC 12) ................................................................................................................................49 Grace When Things Are Hard (CDC 13) ............................................................................................................53 Anger Mismanagement: Only Grace Transforms the Heart (CDC 14) ........................................................59 Biblical Counseling: Depression (CDC 15) .........................................................................................................69 Biblical Counseling: Worry and Anxiety (CDC 16) ..........................................................................................81 Biblical Counseling: Fear (CDC 17) ......................................................................................................................89 Temptation Part 1 (CDC 18) ...................................................................................................................................99 Temptation Part 2 (CDC 19) ................................................................................................................................107 Understanding the Influences of Nature and Nurture (CDC 20) ................................................................119
Appendix: CDC Certification Forms Level 1 Exam ..............................................................................................................................................................127 Level 1 Leader Interview ..........................................................................................................................................129 Level 1 Application ...................................................................................................................................................131
Care And Discipleship Sessions 1-20
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What Is Biblical Counseling? part 1 Introduction and Review A. A breakdown in society- the religion of secular humanism.
B. The failure of the church.
C. The emergence of the biblical counseling movement. Jay Adams: 1970’s Competent to Counsel.
Harmful Errors of Modern Psychology A. Is psychology a science in the same way that medicine is? 1. Should the pastor deal with the spiritual problems while the “mental health professional” deals with emotional and mental problems?
2. Psychology and theology both deal with the same fundamental issues of meaning and value, from widely differing perspectives.
B. Unscriptural presuppositions and practices of certain schools of psychology. 1. A faulty view of man. • Man is only an advanced animal: naturalism/materialism. Gen 1:26-27
• Man is basically good, or at worst a blank slate. Rom 3:10-18, 23; Ps 51:5
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• Man is autonomous: able to solve his problems without God’s help. John 15:5; 2 Tim 3:2
2. Excuses sin and denies personal responsibility. • Blame shifting: parents, teachers, society, etc. 1 John 1:8-10; Js 1:13-15; Ps 32:3ff
• The medical model: calling sin sickness. “Mental illness”
• Is there such a thing as “mental illness”?
• Biology is the hot topic in psychology right now.
3. No fixed moral values: relativism. 2 Tim 3:16-17 • Non-directive counseling (Rogers). Prov 14:12; Col 1:28; Js 5:19-20
• Sinful behaviors and desires legitimized.
• Promotion of “socially acceptable” behaviors: gratification of carnal appetites, ventilation, etc.
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• Often attempts to relieve God-given guilt by destroying conscience.
4. No place for God.
C. Secular psychology is powerless to bring about meaningful change. Jer 17:9; Rom 8:5-8
D. What about those cases in which people seem to get better? 1. Often symptoms (i.e. bizarre behavior) go away with or without treatment.
2. The most serious (spiritual) problems remain. Luke 11:24-26
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What Is Biblical Counseling? part 2 Christian Approaches to Counseling A. Radical separation: the pastor and psychologist are professionals working in different realms. 1. Pastors refer cases dealing with emotional problems to qualified counselors.
2. Psychology and biblical c\Christianity address the same human problems from very different viewpoints.
3. Who is qualified to counsel? Gal 6:1; Rom 15:14
B. Integration: psychologists who happen to be Christians are best suited to helping people with their problems. 1. These people tend to use their psychological training as a starting place, with scripture being applied to support the psychological ideas. Mark 12:31; 2 Tim 3:1-2
2. They tend to accept psychological findings uncritically while neglecting sound in-depth Bible teaching.
3. The danger of integration. 2 Cor 6:14-18
C. Synergism/spoiling the Egyptians: since “all truth is God’s truth,” Christians should add the best of psychology to what the Bible teaches. 1. They claim to use Scripture to critically examine the findings of psychology.
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2. They have the same problems as the integrationists.
3. Their system is usually built around extra-biblical concepts.
4. That which was taken (spoiled) from the Egyptians was silver, gold, and garments, not ideas and beliefs. Lev 18:3-4; 1 Cor 3:19; Col 2:3, 8-10
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What Is Biblical Counseling? part 3 Biblical Counseling: The Bible Is the Sole and Sufficient Authority 2 Tim 3:16-17; 2 Pet 1:3; Heb 4:12; Ps 19:7-14
A. The Bible is a fully sufficient textbook for counseling. 1 Cor 10:13
B. The goal of biblical counseling is to give instruction from the Bible so that the counselee can achieve God’s goals in his/her life. 1 Tim 1:5; Col 1:28-29
C. Key concepts in biblical counseling. 1. Biblical counseling is God-centered. 2 Cor. 5:9; 1 Tim 1:5; Col 1:27-29 • Psychology is man-centered, allowing counselee to set the agenda.
• Not about counselee achieving personal goals.
2. Biblical counseling is founded on sound theology.
3. Biblical counseling confronts sin as the source of mankind’s spiritual problems. • Mankind is created in God’s image: body and soul. Gen 1:27; 2 Cor 5:8
• Mankind is sinful and fallen, which is the source of counseling problems. Rom 3:10ff
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• Will involve confrontation. John 4:18; Acts 17:30; John 9:2-3
4. Biblical counseling is Christ-centered and redemptive. 2 Cor 5:21; 1 John 1:8-2:2; Rom 6:1ff;
Eph 4:32; 5:1, 25
• It is not just commands and law, but the transforming power of the gospel.
5. Biblical counseling aims at the heart. Mark 7:20-23; Matt 12:33; Prov 4:23
6. Biblical counseling is based upon the all-sufficient and infallible Scripture. 2 Tim 3:16-17;
2 Pet 1:3
7. Biblical counseling relies upon the Holy Spirit. 1 Cor 2:14; Rom 8:5-11; 15:13; Phil 4:13; John 4:16-17
• Without the Spirit no one can understand or change.
• He is the Counselor.
8. Biblical counseling is gentle and compassionate. 1 Thess 5:14; Matt 9:35-3; Gal 6:1-2
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9. Biblical counseling is not merely for an elite group of professionals. Rom 15:14; Eph 4:15;
10. Biblical counseling ideally takes place within the context of the local church.
Gal 6:1-2
D. Who is qualified to counsel? 1. Counselor qualifications are spiritual, not merely academic. Gal 6:1-2; 1 Tim 4:16, 12
E. Counseling is not the responsibility of an elite group of professionals, but of every member of Christ’s church. Rom 15:14; Heb 10:24-25; Js 5:19-20
F. Ultimately counseling is God’s work. Rom 15:13; 1 Cor 10:13; Phil 4:13; Is 9:6; 11:1ff 1. It is only in Christ that people have hope.
2. The Holy Spirit is the ultimate Counselor. John 14:16-17 Gal 5:16-25
Other Critical Questions A. Is there any value to secular psychology? 1. Isn’t all truth God’s truth? Yes, and all error is the devil’s error.
2. Relying upon secular psychology is a denial of the sufficiency of Scripture.
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3. Is there any case in which outside help is needed?
4. Why might it be useful for Christians to know something of psychology?
B. How should unbelievers be counseled? 1. A non-Christian is incapable of seeking after God’s goals or doing His will. Rom 8:7-8;
Gal 5:18; Heb. 11:6
2. Unbelievers require pre-counseling: evangelism.
C. Does biblical counseling ever fail? Luke 18:18-25; Gen 4:6ff
D. How can you be prepared to counsel others? 1 Tim 4:16
Conclusion: You are Competent to Counsel Biblically
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Books Adams, Jay, Competent to Counsel. Adams, Jay, Ready to Restore. Adams, Jay, The Christian Counselor’s Manual. Ganz, Rich, Psychobabble. Mack, Wayne, Introduction to Biblical Counseling.
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General Principles of Biblical Counseling part 1 Introduction and Review A. Psychology and Christian counseling. 1. Harmful errors of modern psychology.
2. Christian approaches to counseling.
B. The biblical (nouthetic) counseling movement.
C. Some fundamental assumptions. 1. The Bible is sufficient as our textbook for counseling. 2 Pet 1:3; 2 Tim 3:16-17; Ps 19:7-14;
Heb 4:12
2. The goal of counseling is change in conformity with God’s revealed will, not necessarily the (selfish) desires of the counselee. Col 1:28
3. Change according to God’s standard can only take place by the power of the Holy Spirit.
4. The counselor is qualified through personal holiness and a knowledge of the Word of God.
Phil 4:13; Gal 5:16ff
Gal 6:1; 1 Tim 4:16-17, 7-8, 13; 3:1-7
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Key Elements in Biblical Counseling A. Involvement. Gal 6:1 1. Avoid “professionalism” - proud, aloof, distant, mechanical. 2 Cor 2:4
2. Instead, be humble and brotherly, treating your counselee with respect. Mark 6:34;
Matt 9:35-36; Heb 2:14-18; 4:15; John 11:33-35; Acts 20:31; 2 Cor 2:4; 4:28-29; 1 Thess 2:7-8; 1 Cor 13:7;
Rom 12:10; Phil 2:3-4
3. Be careful not to fall into their sin! Gal 6:1b; Prov 1:10ff • Why might this happen?
• What precautions should we take? Titus 2:3-5
• Why shouldn’t women counsel men? 1Tim 2:12
4. Don’t become an emotional crutch - make them dependent upon God, not you! 2 Chr 24:2
5. Pray with and for your counselee. Phil 1:3-4
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6. Hope must be built from the earliest stages of counseling. 1 Cor 10:13; Rom 15:4-5, 13; Phil 1:6;
2 Cor 5:17; Prov 12:25; 15:13; 17:22; 18:14; Matt 11:28-30
• What is our basis of hope? 1Tim 1:1
• What is the nature of our hope? Heb 11:1
• What can be done to build hope?
• Give manageable homework assignments to build hope.
B. Investigation. Prov 18:15 1. Begin with a plan. Prov 21:5
2. Don’t jump to conclusions. Prov 18:13; 14:15
3. Learn to ask good questions and to listen. Prov 20:5
4. Characteristics of good questions (see Mack p. 223ff ). • Thoughtful and gracious.
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• Relevant.
• Produce facts.
• Open-ended.
5. The PREACH principle for investigating. • Physical: sleep, diet, exercise, drugs, alcohol, medications (many psychotropic), caffeine, etc.
2 Cor 4:6; Eccl 5:12
• Resources: what help is available: church, family, friends: accountability?
• Emotional: fear, worry, anxiety, bitterness, loneliness, depression, anger.
• Action. Ps 32; Gen 4:5-8; Jas 1:22, 25
• Conceptual. Mark 7:19-23; Eph 4:23; Rom 12:2; Heb 4:12
• Historical
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Key Elements in Biblical Counseling “Letter B. Investigation” will continue in Part 2
CDC 5
Books Mack, Wayne, Counseling: How to Counsel Biblically (Macarthur’s Pastor Library).
Supplemental Resources Newheiser, Jim. “The Tenderness Trap.”
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General Principles of Biblical Counseling part 2 Key Elements in Biblical Counseling (continued) B. Investigation 6. Where possible, hear from all parties involved. Prov 18:17
7. Not all problems are caused by personal sin. • Organic problems should be referred to physicians.
• You may need to get the client stabilized physically before you can have a meaningful session - i.e., lack of sleep, under the influence.
8. One of the most important issues to determine is whether the counselee is a believer.
1 John5:1; 2:3-4; 4:7-8; Matt 7:21-23
9. A tool - the Personal Data Inventory.
10. Also gather non-verbal data. Prov 6:13; Gen 4:5
C. Interpretation. Rom 12:2 ; Prov 3:5-7 1. After you have gathered adequate data, you need to draw some conclusions.
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2. You need to evaluate your counselee’s spiritual condition. I Thess 5:14
3. Often the counselee will not know what his problem is, or he will have incorrectly identified the problem. Prov 14:12, 16
4. You want to give biblical labels to the counselee’s situation. Prov 3:5-7 • What biblical language best describes this person’s problem?
• What insights does the Bible give for the probable causes of such problems? Jas 4:1ff
5. Distinguish between the symptoms and the causes of problems.
6. Often your greatest challenge will be to sort out and prioritize the counselee’s issues.
7. Problems stem from the heart. Jer 17:9-10; Mark 7:19-22
D. Instruction. 2 Tim 3:16-17; Eph 4:17-28 1. Rely upon the inerrant and powerful Word of God. Prov 3:5-7 • Handle the Scriptures carefully. Jas 3:1ff; 2 Tim 2:15
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• Use texts for the purpose God gave them.
2. Prepare counseling outlines.
3. Teach interactively and creatively.
4. Teach redemptively (answers are in Christ). Rom 6:1ff
5. You must deal firmly with sin. Eph 4:17-22; 1 Thess 5:14; I John 1:8-10; Acts 20:31; Gal 2:11;
2 Tim 3:16-17; Matt 5:21ff
6. Sin must be repented of - put off. I John 1:9; Ps 32:3-5; Prov 28:13; Matt 5:29-30; 2 Cor 7:8-11
7. New life patterns must be established - put on. Eph 4:22-28
Key Elements in Biblical Counseling “Letter D. Instruction” will continue in Part 3.
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Books Kruis, John G., Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling.
Supplemental Resources Newheiser, Jim, “(Approximately) 100 Go to Texts for Biblical Counselors” “Personal Data Inventory”
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General Principles of Biblical Counseling part 3 Key Elements in Biblical Counseling
(Continued)
D. Instruction. 8. Be careful not to be legalistic: commanding beyond what the Bible says.
E. Intention. Luke 9:23-24; 14:25-34; Phil 2:12-13; Prov14:23 1. Counseling is more than instruction. Jas 1:22; Luke 14:25ff
2. The counselee is responsible to commit to obedience to God. 2 Cor 7:8-11
3. Motives are crucial. Rom 14:23; Col 3:20 • What does real repentance look like? 2 Cor 7:8-11; Ps 51
4. Deal with behavior, not mere feelings. The counselee must agree to obey God, whether he feels like it or not.
5. Be prepared to meet with resistance. Matt 21:28-30
6. Continue to offer hope: faith in Christ works. Rom 6:1-14; 2 Cor 5:17; Mark 9:22-24; 1 Cor 10:13;
John 15:5; Phil 4:13
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7. If a counselee refuses to commit to do God’s will, you may need to end the counseling relationship. Matt 7:6; 18:15-18; Prov 13:15; 29:1; 2 Thess 3:14
F. Implementation. 1. The counselee cannot expect the counselor to change him. Phil 2:12-13
2. The counseling sessions are not ends in and of themselves. • Action and obedience are needed. Mark 10:17-22
• Explain to your counselee how progressive sanctification works. Rom 6:11; Eph 4:22ff; Phil 1:6
3. The greatest progress in counseling is made in between sessions. • Prepare for temptation: concrete steps: call someone, go outside, etc. 2 Tim 2:22; Prov 22:3
• Prepare for failures. 1 John 1:9; Prov 24:16; Ps 43:5
• Expect growth. 2 Cor 3:17-18
4. Concrete homework assignments should be given. Why give homework? • Actions and behavior. 1 Cor 15:33; Prov 13:20; Matt 5:29-30; 25:40; Eph. 4:28
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• Scripture reading and memory.
• Christian books, pamphlets, and tapes.
• Journals.
• Other assignments.
G. Integration. 1. The structure of the local church should be used in maintaining accountability. • We do not want to become substitute psychologists (professionals).
• Ideally, a pastor or other church leader should attend counseling.
• Sometimes church discipline may be required. Matt 18:15-17
• What about confidentiality in counseling?
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2. You are not seeking merely a solution to one problem, but a total restructuring of a life over the period of time.
3. New, godly habits are built over time. Eph 4:13-14
4. The goal is that the counselee will be able to counsel himself and others. Gal 6:6
Conclusion
Books Adams, Jay, The Christian Counselor’s Manual. Adams, Jay, Helps for Counselors. Mack, Wayne, A Homework Manual for Biblical Counseling (I&II).
Supplemental Resources Keller, Timothy. “Communication Guidelines.” Priolo, Lou. “Anger ‘Hot Button’ List.” Priolo, Lou. “A Checklist of Ways Parents Provoke their Children to Anger.” Priolo, Lou. “Christ-Centered or Child-Centered Home.” “Anger Journal/Heart Journal.” “Business Travel Plan for Avoiding Sexual Temptation.” “Child-Centered or God-Centered Home.” “Communication: Discussion Questions.” “Unfaithfulness Assignment.”
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How Do People Change? Part 1 Introduction A. Counseling is about helping people to change.
B. The change we as biblical counselors seek is unique. Col 1:28; 1 Tim 1:5
C. Unbiblical approaches to change (sanctification) will impede your spiritual growth. 1. Mysticism.
2. Deliverance ministry.
3. Self-improvement formulas.
4. Moralism. Rom 5:20; 8:3; Gal 3:3; 4:9
5. Passivism.
6. The recovery movement blends several unbiblical approaches.
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D. The Bible sets forth a balanced perspective on how change takes place. Rom 6; John 15:1-11
Change Begins by Understanding and Applying the Gospel A. Some wrongfully start with the imperative - what we must do for God, which leads to moralism. 1. Scripture begins with the indicative, what God has done for us in Christ, as the ground for imperatives. Rom 1-11; Eph 1-3; Col 1-2
2. Specific New Testament exhorations are grounded in the gospel. Eph 4:20, 24, 32; 5:2, 25ff; 6:6;
Rom 15:2-3, 7
3. Of course this implies that only Christians are able to change according to the will of God.
Rom 8:5-8; 14:23; Heb 11:6
4. What about cases in which unbelievers appear to change (i.e. lose weight, quit smoking, no longer drunkards)? Matt 12:43-45; Rom 14:23; 1 Cor 10:31; Heb 11:6
5. The change we need is inward and Godward. Mark 7:14-23; Col 2:20-23
B. We and our counselees need to comprehend that who we are in Christ is the basis for the changed lives we want to live. Rom 6:11; Col 3:1ff; 2 Pet 1:3-4 1. Some think of the gospel exclusively for justification, but don’t see its relevance for sanctification. Gal 3:3
2. The gospel is just as important for your sanctification as it was for your justification.
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3. Some nouthetic counselors move too quickly to the imperative, without placing enough emphasis on who we are in Christ and how the gospel relates to change.
4. Many counselees have a false identity and label themselves according to their past sin rather than their new identity in Christ. 1 Cor 6:9-11; 2 Cor 5:17
5. The first imperative in Romans is to consider your identity in Christ - remember who you are. Rom 6:11
(also see vs. 3, 6, 9)
the gospel is just as important for your sanctification as it is for your justification
C. Understanding your union with Christ is the key to your growth in holiness. Rom 6:1ff 1. Paul anticipates an objection. Rom 6:1-2 l If salvation is by grace, apart from works, why bother to be holy since the more we sin the more God’s grace is displayed? Rom 6:1; 5:20
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The gospel, rightly understood, promotes holiness. Rom 6:2bff; 1 Thess 4:3; Titus 2:14
2. You can’t go on sinning because you are united to Christ. Rom 6:2b
3. Your old self has died in union with Christ. Rom 6:2b-4a, 6; Col 2:12; Gal 2:20
4. You died to sin in the same sense in which Jesus died to sin. Rom 6:8-10; Heb 7:27; 9:12
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5. You are a new person, united with Christ in His resurrection. Rom 6:4b-5, 8
6. You have been set free from slavery to sin to serve righteousness. Rom 6:6-7, 9b, 15-22
7. This is true of every believer.
8. Now, live in light of who you are. Rom 6:12-13 l The fact that you are united with Chist does not mean that it is no longer possible for you to sin. Rom 7:14ff; Phil 3:12
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9. How does this work itself out in practical terms?
D. Other ways in which the gospel contributes to change (sanctification). 1. We are able to bear fruit only through our union with Christ. John 15:1-11; Gal 2:20
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2. A key to change is to recognize that Christ is better than idols which tempt us. Isa. 55:1-2; John 4:10; 7:38; 6:35, 48-51; Gen 39:9b; Prov 9:1ff
3. Comprehending God’s love and grace to us motivates and enables us to show love and grace. 1 John 4:19
Booklets Newheiser, Jim, Help! I Want to Change.
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How Do People Change? Part 2 We and Our Counselees Are Responsible to Exert Effort Towards Change A. Some wrongfully stop with the indicative, declaring what God has done for us in Christ, while neglecting the imperatives of what God calls us to do.
B. What is the use of biblical imperatives (God’s law)? 1. God’s law shows us our need for Christ who alone meets God’s standard and provides the righteousness we lack. Gal 3:24; 2:16; Phil 3:9
2. God’s law also shows us how He desires His redeemed people to live. 1 Thess 4:1; Eph 5:10; John 14:15
C. Biblical Examples 1. Immediately after telling us to consider our identity in Christ, Paul exhorts us to take action against the lusts of the flesh. Rom 6:12ff
2. Jesus tells us what we must do in order to abide in Him. John 15:1-11 l Have His Word in ourselves. John 15:3, 7
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3. The typical pattern in many New Testament epistles is to begin with the indicative as the basis for the imperative. Rom 12:1ff; Eph 4:1ff; Col 3:1ff
4. Our responsibility and God’s work in us are placed side by side. Phil 2:12-13; 4:13
5. The New Testament is filled with specific exhortations to actively fight sin and to faithfully and diligently pursue righteousness. l Put off sin (repent). Matt 5:29-30; Eph 4:17, 22, 25, 28, 29; Rom 6:12-13a
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6. It is not enough to merely hear God’s word or even to agree with it. We must do what God commands. Matt 7:24-27; Jas 1:22
D. Our motive for obedience is crucial.
What Determines When and Whether Change Takes Place? A. We experience a variety of outcomes in our counseling.
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B. Sometimes change doesn’t take place in the life of a counselee because he/she is not regenerate. John15:2, 6; Phil 1:6; 1John 2:3-4; Matt 7:16ff
C. Personal revival is like corporate revival: God sees fit to sovereignly work in powerful ways in the lives of His people at certain times. John 3:8; 15:5; Ps 71:20; 85:6
D. God uses various means to accomplish change. 1. His Word is a powerful agent for change. 2 Tim 3:16-17; Heb 4:12-13; Ps 119:25; John 15:7
2. We should pray for God to revive us and our counselees. Ps 119:25, 37, 40, 88, 107, 149, 154, 156, 159
3. Sometimes the Lord brings circumstances into our lives to change our course. Ps 119:67, 71; Heb 12:4-11; John 15:2; Jas 1:2ff
4. Sometimes God sends a Nathan to admonish us. Rom 15:14; Gal 6:1-2; 2 Sam 12
Conclusion A. God wants us to change and to bear fruit for His glory. John 15:8
B. The gospel is the key to change. 1. Understand your union with Christ. Rom 6:11
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2. Abide in Christ. John 15:1ff
3. Delight in Christ. Isa 55:1-2
C. We are responsible to exert effort to change.
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Theology and Biblical Counseling Introduction: Why do You Need Theology to Counsel?
ACBC* Theology Exam Using essay style writing, please respond thoroughly to each of these statements. Write your answers as though you are explaining them to a counselee, defining all terms clearly and precisely. Use 1.5 spacing. Your answers should be 1 page to 1 ½ pages in length. Support all your answers with Scripture. This is an open book exam. You may use any written or oral sources, but you must cite your sources at the end of each answer. Read FAQ for complete formatting requirements. A. Bibliology 1. The Bible is spoken of as “inspired.” What does this mean?
2. What is the relationship between infallibility and authority?
3. What is the Bible’s authority on theological controversies?
4. Compare and contrast the Bible and its authority to general revelation and its authority.
5. Many Christians today speak of continuing revelation. Relate this concept to inspiration and sufficiency of the Scripture. Relate this concept to the issue of miracles, prophecy and tongues.
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B. Theology Proper 1. State briefly the biblical basis for, and formulate the doctrine of, the Trinity.
2. List and develop five attributes of God and how they relate to the believer’s life and counseling.
3. State briefly the biblical basis for, and formulate the doctrine of, God’s omniscience. Relate this doctrine to the teaching of “open theism.”
C. Anthropology 1. Who and what is man?
2. What role does anthropology play in counseling theory and practice?
D. Christology 1. Why did Christ die?
2. He was “tempted in all things as we are” (Heb. 4:15). Discuss and relate to counseling theory and practice.
E. Soteriology 1. “Justification by faith alone.” Discuss the meaning of this phrase.
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2. Sanctification is said to be past, present, and future. Discuss, including the idea of “union with Christ.”
3. Do Christians persevere? What relationship does this have to counseling?
F. Pneumatology 1. Who or what is the Holy Spirit?
2. What role does this Spirit play in the believer’s life and the counseling process?
3. Does the Holy Spirit guide Christians? If so, what means and methods does He use?
G. Ecclesiology 1. What is the church?
2. What role does the church play in the believer’s life and the counseling process?
3. What is the biblical teaching on women being ordained as officers of the church?
4. What authority, if any, does the church have over individuals and the counseling process?
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H. General Questions 1. Are you involved in a larger group, organization, or denomination, which disagrees with ACBC’s Statement of Faith? If so, how do you differ from your larger group? Explain what you are doing to influence your group towards ACBC’s position.
2. If received as an ACBC member, can you unequivocally sign the membership covenant?
*ACBC was formerly known as NANC
Books Grudem, Wayne, Systematic Theology: An Introduction to Biblical Doctrine. Berkhof, Louis, Systematic Theology. Reymond, Robert L., A New Systematic Theology of the Christian Faith. Packer, J.I., Concise Theology: A Guide to Historic Christian Beliefs.
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Peacemaking part 1 God Tells You How to Make Peace A. The Bible talks about the nature of peace in two ways. Heb 12:14 1. Peace with God. Rom 5:1
2. General well-being (shalom).
B. Christ is the Prince of Peace who has come on a mission of peace. 1. He has made peace between God and man.
2. He makes peace between man and man. Eph 2:11
C. Our peacemaking flows out of Christ. 1. Biblical peacemaking is founded on the gospel.
You Cannot Completely Avoid Conflict A. All conflict is the result of sin. 1. Man/God. Rom 5:10
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2. Man/Man. Gen 3:10, 12; Jas 4:1-2
B. Peace is sometimes out of your reach. 1. You cannot make peace at the expense of truth and righteousness. Rom 16:17-18; Matt 10:34-38;
18:15ff; Jer 8:11; Acts 20:28; Prov 23:23; Jude 3; 1 Cor 5:6-7; 15:33; Titus 3:9-11; 2 John 1:9-11; Luke 12:15ff; Gal 1:9; 2:11ff; Heb. 2:14; Col 2:15
2. There are some people with whom it is impossible to make peace. 1 Cor 7:15
3. God does not hold you responsible for the sinful failures of others.
C. Conflict is very dangerous (“The Slippery Slope”, from The Peacemaker*). Don’t make things worse through unbiblical methods of handling conflict.
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1. Some fight: revenge, verbal attacks, gossip, slander, assault, murder, lawsuits. Rom 12:17-21; Matt 5:21-22; Prov 11:9; 29:22; 12:18; 14:17; 18:8; 16:28; 11:13; 1 Cor 6:1-8; 1 Cor 7:15
2. Others flee: denial, escape, suicide. Eph 4:26b; 1 Sam 2:22-25; Heb 12:15
D. Conflict brings opportunity: to glorify God, to be more like Christ, to serve others, and to bear witness to a watching world. Rom 8:28-29; 12:14,20; 1Cor 10:31
*© Peacemaker® Ministries. Used by permission. Peacemaker Ministries’ purpose is transforming relationships by the power of the Gospel. For a full range of information about biblical peacemaking, visit www.Peacemaker.net or contact Peacemaker Ministries at 406-256-1583.
Books Bartel, T. & Dabler, J., Peacemaking Women. Sande, Ken, The Peacemaker. Sande, Ken, Peacemaking for Families.
Booklets Peacemaker Ministries, Peacemaking Principles Pamphlet.
Audios Newheiser, Jim. “Biblical Peacemaking Series.”
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Peacemaking Part 2 Do All That Is in Your Power to Pursue Peace
Matt 5:9; Heb 12:14
A. Don’t stir up strife. Rom 16:17; Prov 6:19; 26:21; 18:21; 10:19; Titus 3:10; Eph 4:29; Jas 1:19; 3:1ff
B. Overlook minor offenses. Rom 14:19; 1 Pet 4:8; Prov 10:12; 19:11; 29:11, 20, 22; 25:28; 15:18; 14:19; Matt 5:39-40; Phil 2:5ff; Matt 5:39-40; 1 Cor 13:7
C. Be ready to make sacrifices for the sake of peace. 1 Cor 6:7; Prov 17:14
D. Trust God to defend your interests. 1 Pet 2:23
E. Confess your sins: Get the log out of your eye. Matt 7:1-5; 5:23-24; Prov 28:13 1. You must deal with your own sin before you can help others to overcome theirs.
2. Face up to the root of sin in your own heart. Jas 4:1-2; Prov 2:24; Matt 15:18
3. Seek forgiveness for whatever fault you may have (even if it is only 10%).
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4. Seek forgiveness biblically (“The Seven A’s of Confession” from The Peacemaker*).
• Avoid “if, but, maybe.”
•Admit specifically.
• Acknowledge the hurt.
• Accept the consequences.
• Alter your behavior.
• Ask for forgiveness .
Matt 5:23-24; 2 Cor 7:10-11
• Address everyone involved .
F. Be ready to forgive others as God has forgiven you. Ps 86:5; Eph 4:32; Col 3:12-14 1. Forgiveness is not optional for forgiven people. Matt 6:12; 18:21-35; Jer 31:34
2. Make the four promises of forgiveness (from The Peacemaker*). Matt 6:12; 1 Cor 13:5
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• I will not think about this incident.
• I will not bring this incident up and use it against you.
• I will not talk to others about this incident.
• I will not allow this incident to stand between us.
G. Use the PAUSE principle in negotiating/peacemaking (from The Peacemaker*). 1. Prepare for peacemaking. 1 Cor 4:13
2. Affirm relationships. 1 Cor 13:7
3. Understand the interests of others: listen! Phil 2:3-4; Jas 1:19; 1 Pet 3:7; Prov 20:5
4. Search for creative solutions. Dan 1; Ecc 9:16
5. Evaluate options objectively and reasonably.
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* © Peacemaker® Ministries. Used by permission. Visit www.Peacemaker.net for information about biblical peacemaking.
Booklets Peacemaker Ministries, Peacemaking Principles Pamphlet.
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Peacemaking Part 3 Promote Peace by Confronting Sin Biblically A. Be willing to receive correction from others. Prov 15:31 1. Pride destroys peacemaking.
B. Love sometimes requires you to go and show your brother his fault. Rom 15:14; Lev 19:17 Which sins must you confront? 1. Notorious sins which could damage the Lord’s reputation. 1 Cor 5:1,11
2. Sins which endanger the purity and unity of the church. Rom 16:17-18; 1 Cor 5:6-7; 15:33
3. Sins which could ruin the offender. Jas 5:19-20; Gal 6:1
4. Sins which could affect your relationship with this person. Matt 18:15; Eph 4:26-27
C. First, practice personal peacemaking. Matt18:15; 5:23-24 1. Go to the individual first before involving others.
2. Go gently, lovingly, and humbly for the purpose of restoration. Gal 6:1-2
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3. If he repents, rejoice and forgive. Matt 18:21-22; Jas 5:19-20; Prov 11:30
D. Then, if necessary, seek help in making peace (assisted peacemaking). Matt 18:16 1. Others can bear witness and join in admonishing the sinner to repent. Deut 19:15
2. If you can’t resolve a conflict on your own, seek godly counsel to help you.
3. Sometimes mediation or binding arbitration may be appropriate. 1 Cor 6:5
E. Finally, if necessary, take it to the church. Matt 18:17a 1. The leaders of the church will determine the validity of the charges and the means of dealing with the matter publicly.
2. The other members join in to plead with the sinner to repent. 2 Thess 3:14-15
F. If he refuses to listen to the church, he is to be put out of the assembly. Matt 18:17b-20; 1 Cor 5:4-5, 13b; 1 Tim 1:19-20; Ps 1:6
2. He is to be regarded as an unbeliever and an outsider. Matt 18:17b
3. Church discipline takes place with the authority of the Lord. Matt 18:18-20
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4. What is the purpose of church discipline? 1 Cor 5:5-7; 15:33; Deut 13:11; 2 Cor 2:6-8
5. Biblical peacemaking requires a biblical church structure. Heb. 13:17 • Membership in a local church is a concept taught in the New Testament.
• Membership is necessary for accountability to a particular set of leaders.
• Membership provides many benefits.
• Leaders of local churches need to faithfully shepherd the sheep.
• Local churches need to be willing to work together when it comes to discipline.
6. Authority relationships do not negate the responsibility to confront sin. • Husband/wife
• Employer/employee
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Questions A. Does this approach to confronting sin violate confidentiality or one’s right to privacy? 1 Tim 1:19-20; Prov 29:25; Eph 5:11
B. Do these peacemaking techniques ever fail? Prov 3:5-6
C. How can these principles be applied with unbelievers?
D. Is there ever a time when it is appropriate for Christians to go to court?
Conclusion A. Before you can make peace with men, you must have peace with God. Rom 5:1,10; 8:6; Isa 9:6; 57:21; Luke 1:79; 2:14; 19:38; Eph 2:14,17; John 17:20-21; 2 Cor 5:18-20
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Grace When Things Are Hard Introduction
Heb 5:8-10
You Will Face Trials A. Trials are the ordinary experience of believers living in a fallen world. Luke 12:52-53; John 16:33; 1 Pet 4:12-13; Job 5:7; Phil. 3:10; Col. 1:24; 2 Cor 4:8; Ps 34:19a
B. Believers in the Bible suffered great trials. Gen 3:12; 4:8ff; 12:11ff; 25:28ff; 27:1ff; 25:22; 37:2ff; 1 Sam 2:12ff; 8:3; 2 Sam 12:10ff; 13:1ff; 15:1ff; Ezek 18:1ff ; Job 1:18-19; 2:9
C. We continue to endure significant trials.
D. James does not say that we can, through faith and prayer, eliminate trials. Jas 1:5-7; Job 5:7; Heb 11:1ff; Ezek 18:1ff; Luke 12:52-53
E. Trials typically fall upon you unexpectedly. Luke 10:30
God Is at Work in Your Trials and Uses Your Trials to Mature You A. Consider it all joy – It is vital for you to think correctly about your trials. 1 Pet 1:6
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1. You can rejoice because God is in the picture. Think beyond your pain to the good our sovereign God is doing. Heb 12:11; Rom 8:28; Gen 50:20
2. What are some positive examples of those who had joy in their trials? Acts 5:40-41; 16:25;
Col 1:24; Heb 12:1ff; 11:26; 2 Cor 6:10; 7:4; 12:9ff; Matt 5:10-12
B. God uses trials to help you to grow. Jas1:3; Rom 5:2-4; 1 Pet 1:6-7; Ps 40:1-2; 2 Thess 1:3-4 1. Knowing – You need to understand God’s purpose in your trials. Prov 27:6; 3:11-12
2. The testing of your faith – Your trials prove and refine your faith. 1 Pet 1:7; Ps 12:6
3. Produces endurance – Your trials produce needed steadfastness. Rom 5:3; Heb 12:11; Luke 8:15;
2 Thess 1:4; Rev 2:2; 13:10; 2 Pet 1:6; Heb 11:37-39; 2 Cor 12:9ff
C. The end result of your trials is that you will be mature. Jas1:4; Matt 5:48 1. Let endurance have its perfect result – Trials do not always and automatically produce endurance.
2. In what sense can you become perfect and complete? Jas 1:4, 12; 3:2; Matt 5:48; 19:21; Col 1:28; 4:12; 1 Thess 5:23; Phil 3:15
Ask God for Wisdom in Your Trials
Jas 1:5-8
A. We especially need wisdom when facing trails. Jas 1:5a; 3:17; Prov 1:2ff
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B. Ask God to give you the wisdom you need. Jas 1:5a 1. Admit that you lack wisdom. Matt 5:3, 6
2. Seek wisdom as God’s great gift. Prov 2:6; Rom 11:33
3. The wisdom we seek is embodied in the Person of Jesus Christ. 1 Cor 1:30; Col 2:3
C. God gladly gives His wisdom to all those who seek Him. Prov 1:21ff; 9:1ff; 2:1ff 1. James echoes Jesus’ teaching. Matt 7:7-11; John 14:13-14
2. God gives generously. 2 Cor 8:2; 9:11; Rom 8:31ff; Eph 3:20-21; 1 Kgs 3:9ff
3. He gives without reproach. Prov 23:6-7; Ps 103:13; Isa 55:6-9
4. This is an absolute promise of God. Prov 1:20ff; John 7:37; Ps 81:10
D. How does God impart His wisdom? Jas 1:18; Rom 10:17; Ps 1:2; Prov 1:5 1. Do not expect God to impart the skill of wisdom to you by zapping you.
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2. God uses His Word to make you wise. Jas 1:18, 21; Rom 10:17; Ps 1:1ff
E. You must ask in faith. Jas 1:6b-8 1. What does it mean to ask in faith? Heb 11:6; Matt 21:22; Mark 11:24; Rom 4:21
2. What kind of doubt is James condemning? Jas 1:6; Matt 26:39; Mark 9:24
3. God hates double mindedness. Jas 1:8; 4:8, 4; Ps 119:113; Prov 3:5-6; 28:26; Ps 1:1; Jer 17:5;
Rev 3:15-16; Matt 6:24; 1 Kgs 18:21; 2 Kgs 17:33; Rev 3:15
4. God blesses those who have undivided loyalty and commitment to Him with wisdom and stability. Ps 1:3; Jer 17:7-8; Deut 6:5; Prov 3:5-6; Heb 6:10; Matt 7:24-25
Never Lose Sight of God’s Goodness in Your Trials
Jas 1:12-18
A. Satan will tempt you to doubt God’s goodness when you are enduring trials. Gen 3:5
B. Don’t blame God when you are tempted. Jas 1:13
C. God is good. Jas 1:17; Ps 145:15-16, 19; Matt 5:45; John 3:16; Acts 17:25 1. He is the Father (Creator) of lights. Gen 1:14ff; Ps 136:6-8; 1 John 1:5; 1 Tim 6:16
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2. He is immutably perfect in His goodness. Jas 1:17d; Mal 3:6; 1 John 1:5; Heb 13:8; Ps 18:30a; 100:5; 102:26-27; Isa 40:8
D. God generously gives good gifts. Jas 1:17, 5 1. He is the source of every good gift. Jas 4:4; 3:15, 17; 1:5; John 3:3, 7, 16, 31; 2 Pet 1:3-4
2. God is good to everything and everyone, even His enemies. Matt 5:45; 6:26-30; Acts 14:17; Ps 104:27-28; 145:15-16
3. His gifts are perfect (complete). Jas 1:25; Deut 32:4; Ps 19:7
4. God’s best gifts are spiritual. Jas 1:5; 3:17; 2 Pet 1:3-4; Col 3:1-2; Matt 7:11; Rom 6:23; John 3:16; 14:17;
Ezek 36:25-26; Ps 19:7ff; 1 Cor 10:13
E. When you feel overwhelmed by trials and are tempted to doubt God’s goodness, remember His good gifts. Rom 8:31ff; 2 Pet 1:3-4; Prov 18:22; 19:14; 1 Thess 5:18; 1 Tim 4:4-5; Ps 73:1, 17ff; 74:12ff; 80:8ff
Conclusion
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Anger Mismanagement: Only Grace Transforms the Heart Introduction: Anger Is a Problem Both in the World and in the Church
Understanding Anger A. What is anger? 1. Anger is an emotion. Anger is our whole-personed active response of negative moral judgment against perceived evil. (Robert Jones)
2. All anger seems righteous. Jas 1:20; Rom 12:17-21
3. Anger has a physical component. Gen 4:5; Exod 32:19; Ps 4:4
4. Anger is active. Exod 32:19-20; Gen 39:19-20
B. Anger is not necessarily sinful. 1. God gets angry. Exod 4:14; 15:8; Num 25:4; Ps 7:11; 18:7-8; 2:4-5, 12; Deut 29:27-28; John 3:36;
Rom 1:18
2. Jesus was angry. Mark 3:5; 10:14; Matt 21:12; John 2:13-17
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3. Righteous anger is rare! Eph 4:26ff; Acts 17:16
C. Anger is very deceptive. Jer 17:9-10; Eph 4:25 1. We typically try to justify our anger.
2. Some deny their anger or try to justify themselves by calling it something else.
3. Many blame their anger on something outside of themselves. Mark 7:14-23
4. Some try to blame genetics (nature) or their upbringing (nurture).
D. Anger is dangerous. Eph 4:26-27; Eccl 7:9 1. Anger is usually murderous by nature. Matt 5:21ff; 1 Sam 20:30-33; 1 John 3:15; Prov 11:9; Gen 4:6-7;
Acts 7:54ff
2. Anger gives the devil an opportunity. Eph 4:26-27; John 8:44; Jas 1:14-15
3. Those who give in to anger are at risk of losing control. Prov 25:28; 29:8, 11; 14:17
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4. Anger is destructive and leads to many other sins. Eph 4:31; 1 Sam 18:8-9; Luke 15:28-30; Col 3:19;
Prov. 29:22, 14:17; Num 20:6-12; Ps 106:32-33
5. Anger is contagious. Prov 22:24-25; 15:1,18
What Causes Out-of-Control Anger? A. Explanations of secular psychology – nature and nurture.
B. Scripture deals with most anger as a sin issue. Matt 5:21-22; Jas 1:19-20; 4:1ff; Eph 4:26-27; Col 3:8; Prov 14:29; 15:18; 19:19; 22:24; 29:22; 2 Cor 7:10-11
C. Scripture teaches that anger begins in the heart. Mark 7:21; Matt 12:34
D. We become angry because we want something (too much). Jas 4:1-4; Isa 55:1-2 1. What do I seek and treasure more than Christ? Isa 55:1-2; Jas 4:4
2. A legitimate desire when it becomes a controlling desire (or demand) becomes a sinfully idolatrous desire.
3. Angry people have false beliefs that they possess certain rights including the right to express their anger (judgment/revenge) when their rights are violated,
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4. Angry people often succeed in getting what they want by manipulating others.
5. In the end angry people experience loss (including the loss of their idols).
What Are Some Unbiblical Means People Use to Deal with Anger? A. Secular psychology promotes anger management – expressing, suppressing, calming.
B. Secular strategies try to keep anger at bay– relaxation, cognitive restructuring, problem solving, communication, humor, changing environment, counseling.
C. The secular methodologies do not address the heart of anger.
D. There are many sinful ways in which people deal with anger. Prov 29:22; Eccl 7:9 1. Ventilation. Prov 12:18; 29:11; 25:28; Eph 4:29,31; Jas 1:19; 4:11-12; Gal 5:15; Rom 12:19-21; 1 Pet 3:8-9;
Num 20:6-12
2. Displacement. Matt 5:21-22
3. Internalizing. Lev 19:17-18; 1 Kgs 21:4; Eph 4:31
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You Can Overcome Anger by God’s Grace: Address Your Heart with Gospel Truth A. The key is what you are saying in your own heart. Phil 4:8-9; Prov 4:23; Mark 7:21-23
B. Five things to tell yourself when you are getting angry. 1. I want something too much – Idolatry. Jas 4:1-4; Isa 55:1-2; Rom 1:25
2. I am not God – Judge. Jas 1:19-20; 4:19-20; Gen 50:19; 1 Pet 2:23; Matt 7:1ff; 1 Cor 4:5; Rom 12:17-21
3. God has been very gracious to me – In Christ. Exod 34:6; Ps 103:8; Eph 4:31-32; Col 3:13;
Matt 18:22-35; 1 Tim 1:15-16; Rom 5:10, 3:21-26; Prov 19:11; 1 Pet 4:8
4. God is in control – He is doing good and will not give me more than I can bear. 1 Cor 10:13; Gen 50:21; Rom 8:28; Acts 2:23; Ps 103:19; Jas 1:2ff; 1 Pet 1:6-7; Prov 21:1
5. Remember who I am – A new creature in Christ. Rom 6:11; 2 Cor 5:17; 1 Pet 4:1-6; 1 Cor 10:13; Gal 5:13-16, 19-23; Titus 3:3
C. Five more things to remember as you are calming down. 1. God’s grace helps me to exercise self control, patience and gentleness. 1 Cor 13:4-5; Jas 1:19;
Titus 1:7; Prov 12:16; 14:29; 16:32; 19:11; 29:8, 11; 14:17; Col 3:19
2. God’s grace enables me to speak with gentleness and grace. Prov 15:1; Eph 4:29
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3. God’s grace enables me to lovingly do good to those who wronged me. Rom 12:20; Matt 5:43ff; Gen 50:21; 45:7-11; Luke 6:27-28; Eph 5:1-2
4. God’s grace enables me to receive correction, even from those who hurt me. Prov 9:8; 13:10; 2 Sam 16:5-13; Matt 7:1ff
5. God’s grace helps me to pursue the restoration of those who hurt me. Gal 6:1-2 • Their sin is primarily against God (it is not about me!). Ps 51:4
• My objective is to restore (not to vent or to judge) my brother/sister. Matt 4:21
• If I am to help, I must be “spiritual” and gentle. Gal 5:13-23
D. Five more practical principles. 1. Don’t be quarrelsome. Prov 17:14; 29:3; 26:20; 1 Pet 3:7
2. Deal with your anger and conflict quickly. Eph 4:26-27; Matt 5:23-24; 7:1ff
3. Prepare for temptation. Prov 21:5
4. Seek God’s help through prayer. Heb 4:16
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5. Your anger can motivate you to pursue a biblical solution to problems.
Common Questions About Anger A. When is anger righteous? (From Robert Jones, Uprooting Anger) Mark 3:1-6 1. A real sin has taken place. 1 Sam 11:1-6; Mark 10:13-16; Acts 17:16; 1 John 3:4
2. My concern is for God’s kingdom, not my own. John 2:13-17; Ps 119:52-54; 103-104, 127-128, 139:22
3. Anger is righteously expressed. Ps 106:33; Rom 12:17-21; Gal 6:1-2
B. How can you be angry and yet not sin? Eph 4:26; Jas 1:19
C. Is it ever permissible to be angry with God? Dan 4:34-35; Job 1:22, 2:9; Rom 9:20; Jas 1:13; Ps 73:2-3; 1 Chr 13:11-13; Gen 4:6-7; Deut 29:29; Hab 1:1-4, 1:12-2:1; Ps 13:1ff, 62:8, 115:3
D. What if you are angry with yourself ? 1. Sometimes we are angry at ourselves because of pride. Jer 17:9
2. The only verdict which matters is that of God Who has declared you righteous for Christ’s sake. Phil 3:9; 1 Tim 1:15-16; 1 Cor 6:9-11
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Counseling an Angry Person A. Data gathering/interpretation. 1. What does this person want so badly? Jas 4:1ff (see attachment)
2. Is physical abuse taking place? Is anyone in danger?
B. Homework for those who give in to anger. 1. Repent of anger. Abandon your rights. Phil 2:3-8; Mark 10:42-45; John 13:1-17
2. Create note cards for what you need to tell yourself when you are angry.
3. Make a plan for dealing with anger. Prov 27:12
4. Keep an anger journal (see attachment).
5. Meditate upon and memorize key texts.
6. Reading.
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Conclusion: Propitiation
Books Adams, Jay, The Christian Counselor’s Manual. Harvey, Dave, When Sinners Say I Do. Jones, Robert D., Uprooting Anger. Mack, Wayne, Anger and Stress Management God’s Way. Mack, Wayne, Homework Manual for Biblical Living. “Anger Homework.” Priolo, Lou, Getting a Grip. Priolo, Lou, The Heart of Anger. Tripp, Paul, War of Words.
Booklets Adams, Jay, What to Do When Anger Gets the Upper Hand. Jones, Robert D., Angry at God: Bring Him Your Doubts and Questions. Newheiser, Jim, Help! Someone I Love has been Abused. Powlison, David, Anger: Escaping the Maze.
Audios Mack, Wayne. “Counseling Angry People.” Maxham, Tom. “Drawing Out Idols of the Heart.” Newheiser, Jim. “Who is a Murderer? Matt 5:21-16.” Tripp, Paul. “War of Words.”
Supplemental Resources Newheiser, Jim. “What Provokes Me to Anger?” Priolo, Lou. “Anger ‘Hot Button’ List.” “Anger Journal/Heart Journal.”
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Biblical Counseling: Depression Understanding Depression A. What is depression? 1. Depression is more than feeling a bit down. Prov 18:14
2. A major depressive disorder includes five or more of the following symptoms (DSM IV): • Depressed mood most of the day.
• Markedly diminished interest or pleasure in almost all activities.
• Significant weight loss or weight gain.
• Insomnia or hypersomnia.
• Psychomoter agitation or retardation.
• Fatigue or loss of energy.
• Feelings of worthlessness or excessive/inappropriate guilt.
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• Diminished ability to think or concentrate. Indecisiveness.
• Recurrent thoughts of death, suicidal ideation without a specific plan.
3. Depression is widespread in society and among Christians.
4. Some people are more prone to depression than others.
5. Cases of depression need to be handled with compassion. Prov 25:20
6. Different kinds of depression include: major depressive disorder, postpartum depression, seasonal affective disorder, dysythmic disorder, etc.
7. Psychological labels are descriptions which say little about cures or ultimate causes.
B. How are we to understand depression? 1. Many say that depression is merely a disease.
2. Many secular psychologists see mankind as merely physical and therefore tend to see depression as a physical problem with a chemical solution.
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3. Christians recognize the dual nature of mankind – body and soul. 2 Cor 4:16; 5:8 • The soul is embedded in a body (which is socially embedded).
• What happens to the body influences the soul. Job 2
• What happens to the soul may influence the body. Prov14:30; 17:22; Ps 38:1ff
• What happens in one’s social environment may affect both body and soul.
4. Depression affects both body and soul.
5. Depression will always have a spiritual component and will usually have a physical component.
6. Bodily (brain) weakness cannot prevent spiritual growth. 2 Cor 12:7ff; 4:7-10, 16-18
C. Why do people get depressed? 1. Depression usually has spiritual (soul) causes. • Sin and guilt. Ps 32:3-4; 38:1ff; Jer 2:13
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• Overwhelming circumstances. Ps 42:1-7, 9-10; 43:2; 2 Sam 17:23; Job 1-2
• Injustice. Ps 73:2-14
• Relationships. Jer 17:5-6
2. Some depression may have physical causes – exhaustion, substance abuse, brain disease or weakness. 1 Kgs 19:4ff
3. Sometimes there are multiple causes.
4. You may face cases in which you cannot determine the cause(s). 1 Cor 13
D. Do drugs help depressed people? Prov 17:22 1. Psychotropic drugs are prescribed to bring brain chemistry back into balance.
2. Even if brain chemistry is out of balance it is not clear whether this is the cause of depression or the result of spiritual issues (see above).
3. In cases in which the cause is spiritual, drugs may address the symptoms of depression, but they do not address the cause.
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4. Anti-depressants do not claim to cure depression.
5. Psychotropic drugs have adverse side-effects and often lose their potency.
6. We do not tell people not to use drugs or to get off of their drugs.
7. Our focus is addressing the spiritual issues which are always present. 1 Cor 10:13
8. A counselee who chooses to get off of psychotropic drugs must do so under a doctor’s supervision.
9. While I believe that drugs are over-prescribed for depression, I am reluctant to pass judgment in particular situations. Matt 7:1ff
E. Depression works in cycles. 1. Depression cycles down. • Depression often begins with a problem followed by a sinful response to that problem which leads to a complicating problem.
• Hopeless thoughts lead to greater hopelessness.
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• Failure to perform duties/chores makes one feel more guilty and depressed, which makes it harder to perform duties.
2. Depressed people can cycle back up again.
3. People who are prone to depression tend to cycle in and out of depression.
4. Many have patterns of alternating high activity followed by depression (“bi-polar” or manic-depressive).
5. It often takes a long time for a person to come out of depression. Ps 88: 13-18
F. Depression is very serious. 1. Some are debilitated.
2. Those who despair are at risk of suicide. 2 Sam 16:23; 17:14, 23; Jonah 4:3
3. Depressed people are often angry at God, others and themselves.
G. It is very difficult and draining to counsel depressed people.
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Counseling a Depressed Person: Data Gathering/Interpretation A. Listen sympathetically and patiently. Prov 20:5; 25:20; Matt 7:1ff
B. What is the cause of this depression?
C. What is the history/pattern of depression?
D. What lies is your depression telling you?
E. Are the counselee’s physical needs being met?
F. Who else is being affected? Depression is contagious.
G. Offer encouragement.
H. Pray with and for your counselee.
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Exposition of Key Texts: Applying the Gospel to Depressed People A. Psalm 32 1. Sin makes your life miserable. Ps 32:3-4
2. David’s depression lifted when he repented of his sin. Ps 32:1,5
3. Our sin is covered, forgiven, and not imputed against us because of Christ. Isa 53:3ff
B. Psalm 73 1. Injustice in the world can test your faith. Ps 73:1-14
2. You need a change in perspective - from the here and now to the eternal and heavenly.
3. The world does not change, but the psalmist does, as he finds satisfaction in God alone.
4. Christ endured injustice for us and makes us fit for God’s holy presence.
Ps 73:15-28
Ps 73: 25-26
C. Psalm 42-43 1. Understand how the depressed person feels– dry and drowning all at the same time. Ps 42:1-4,
6-10; 43:1-4; Jonah 2:3ff
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2. Stop listening to yourself and start talking to yourself (MLJ). Ps 42:5, 11; 43:5 • Don’t judge reality by your circumstances. 2 Cor 5:7; 2 Kgs 6:16-17
• Remember your past enjoyment of fellowship with God. Ps 42:4
• Remember God’s covenant loving-kindness. Ps 42:8; Isa. 49:15; Jonah 2:7
• Hope in God – practical eschatology. Ps 42:5b, 11b; 43:5b; Jonah 2:9; Job 13:15
3. You may have to keep reminding yourself of the same truths. Ps 42:5, 11; 43:5
4. Go to God to quench your spiritual thirst. Ps 42:1-2, 4; Isa 55:1-2
5. Praise God with joy – the circumstances do not change, but the psalmist is transformed from despair to joy. Ps 43:4; 42:8
6. Jesus suffered the ultimate spiritual thirst for you so that you would thirst no more. John
19:28; 4:13-15; 7:37-39; 6:35; Matt 26:37ff
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D. Psalm 88 1. Depression can be very deep.
2. Depression does not always go away quickly.
3. Sometimes depressed people simply need to be encouraged to endure.
Homework for Those Who Are Depressed A. Make sure physical needs are being met: sleep, food, exercise, etc. 1 Kgs 19:4, 9-10
B. Deal biblically with depression. 1. Confess and repent of sin. Ps 32:5
2. Submit to God’s sovereignty over your circumstances. Ps 73:15f f; Rom 8:28; Gen. 50:20
3. Stop listening to yourself and start talking to yourself. Phil 4:8
4. Hope in God. Ps 42:5, 11; 43:5; Rom 8:29ff; Heb 13:5
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5. Offer thanks and praise to God. Ps 43:4; 73:8; 32:11
6. Start to cycle out of depression by serving God and others. 1 Kgs 19:12-17; Matt 6:33; 22:37-39;
Phil 2:3-4; 2 Cor 5:9
C. Biblical memory and study. 1. Psalm 32
2. Psalm 73
3. Psalm 42
4. Jeremiah 17:5-8
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Books Fitzpatrick, E. & Hendrickson, L., Will Medicine Stop the Pain? Hodges, Charles, Good Mood Bad Mood: Help and Hope for Depression and Bipolar Disorder. Lloyd-Jones, Martin, Spiritual Depression. Mack, Wayne, Down but Not Out. Mack, Wayne, Homework Manual for Biblical Living Volume 1. “Depression Homework.” Vincent, Milton, The Gospel Primer. Welch, Ed, Blame It on the Brain. Welch, Ed, Depression: A Stubborn Darkness.
Booklets Adams, Jay, What Do You Do When You Become Depressed? (pamphlet) Black, Jeffrey, Suicide: Understanding and Intervening. Welch, Ed, Depression: The Way Up When You Are Down.
Audios Hodges, Charles. “Good Mood, Bad Mood: Help for Depression.” Newheiser, Jim. “Blessed Forgiveness – Psalm 32.” Newheiser, Jim. “Thirsting for God – Psalms 42-43.” Newheiser, Jim. “Why do the Wicked Prosper? – Psalm 73.” Scipione, George. “Depression.”
Supplemental Resources The Journal of Biblical Counseling 18 (2 Winter 2000). The Journal of Biblical Counseling 18 (3 Spring 2000). Welch, Ed. “Possible Homework Assignments and Strategies.”
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Biblical Counseling: Worry and Anxiety Understanding Worry A. Worry is a problem of the mind.
B. Worry is sin. Phil 4:6-7; Matt 6:34
C. Worry is rooted in unbelief. Matt 6:30
D. The person who worries desires something in the place of God.
E. Worry can become life dominating. 1. Worry can lead to depression.
2. Worry can affect you physically. 1 Cor 6:19-20
F. Worry, stress, and fear are closely related.
G. Don’t deal with worry sinfully.
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1. By trying to control whatever it is that worries you.
2. By misusing drugs, alcohol, shopping, etc.
H. It is not wrong to plan, so long as you leave the outcome to God. Prov 21:5; Matt 6:34; Prov 16:9
Why Shouldn’t You Worry? The Disease: Matt 6:25-32, 34 A. Worry is senseless because your Heavenly Father cares for you. Matt 6:25-26, 28-30 1. Because God has already given you the greater gift of life, you can trust Him to provide the lesser needs of sustenance. Matt 6:25; 7:9-11; Rom 8:32
2. If God provides for the physical needs of the lesser creation, surely he will take care of you, His children. Matt 6:26, 28-30; Ps 147:9; 104:25, 27; Rom 1:20
B. Worry is useless because it accomplishes nothing. Matt 6:27, 34 1. Anxiety is futile. Matt 6:27; Heb 9:27; Ps 31:15; 39:4-6; Luke 12:20; Job 14:5
2. While fretting cannot lengthen your life, it may shorten it!
3. Worry about tomorrow keeps you from being productive today. Matt 6:34
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C. Worry is faithless because it denies God’s loving care for you. Matt 6:30b-32; 8:26 1. Ultimately anxiety is due to unbelief. Matt 6:30b; 8:26; 14:30-31; 16:8; 17:20
2. By worrying you are behaving like an unbeliever. Matt 6:31-32a
3. Fretting is unworthy of a child of the King. Matt 6:32b; 10:29-31; Ps 84:11
You Can Stop Worrying. The Cure: Matt 6:33 A. Commit yourself to the Lord’s business. Matt 6:33a
B. Trust God to meet your needs. Matt 6:33b; Heb 4:15; 13:5-6; Isa 26:3; Ps 55:22; 46:1-2 1. Cast your cares upon the Lord. 1 Pet 5:7; Phil 4:6
2. If you take care of His business, He will take care of yours. 1 Kgs 3:10-14
3. If you rely upon Him, he will not disappoint you. Ps 37:25; 34:10; Rom 9:33; 10:11; 1 Pet 2:6;
1 Cor 10:13
C. Give thanks for His bountiful provision and be content. Phil 4:6; 1 Thess 5:18; Phil 4:12; 1 Tim 6:6-8; Heb 13:5-6
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Don’t Misunderstand or Abuse God’s Promises! A. Jesus is not saying that you won’t have any problems. Matt 6:34b; Gen 3:17-19
B. Jesus is not advocating carefree irresponsibility. Matt 25:14-30 1. God ordinarily provides through means– sowing and reaping. Matt 6:26; Gen 3:19 Believers are not exempt from having to earn a living. 2 Thess 3:10
2. You are responsible to take care of today’s troubles today, as God enables you. Matt 6:34;
1 Tim 5:8, 13; 2 Thess 3:10; Lam 3:22-23
Introduction to Phil 4:4-7 A. Rejoice in the Lord always. Phil 4:4 1. God commands you to be joyful. Phil 3:1; 1 Thess 5:16 • How can Paul tell you to be joyful?
• You are responsible for how you feel.
2. True and lasting joy is found only in the Lord. 1 Pet 1:8 • Any other source of joy will let you down. Prov 23:4-5
• Joy is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. Gal 5:22f f
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• The Lord is sufficient cause for continual joy. Phil 3:8-10; 3:20-21; 4:5; Ps 37:4; 16:11; John 15:11; Luke 1:14; 19:37; Acts 8:39; 13:48; Rev 19:6
B. Be yielding and gentle towards all people. Phil 4:5 1. How does forbearance relate to joy and peace? • Don’t be the kind of person who is always frantically looking out for himself.
C. Instead of being anxious, pray. Phil 4:6-7
1. Turn to God with all your concerns. 1 Pet 5:7; Heb 11:6 • Prayer. Col 4:2; Matt 6:32
• Supplication. Eph 6:18; Heb 5:7; 1 Pet 3:12
• Thanksgiving. Eph 5:4; Col 4:2; 1 Tim 2:1ff; Rom 1:21; Phil 1:12-17; 2:17-18
• Make your requests to God. 1 John 5:15
2. God’s own peace shall guard your hearts and your minds. 1 Pet 1:5; John 14:27 • Notice what Paul doesn’t promise.
• God’s own peace is of surpassing value.
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Data Gathering/Interpretation A. What is the focus of worry?
B. What is this person seeking?
C. What is the history/pattern of worry?
D. How is this person seeking to deal with worry in a sinful way?
Homework for Those Who Are Anxious A. Pray. Phil 4:6-7 1. Adoration.
2. Confession.
3. Thanksgiving. Recall His past faithfulness.
4. Supplication. 1 Pet 5:7
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B. Rejoice in the Lord. Phil 4:4-5
C. Trust God for the outcome. Jas 4:13-17
D. Meditate upon what is profitable. Phil 4:8-9
E. Desire and seek first God’s kingdom. Matt 6:33; Matt 6:19-24 1. Focus upon fulfilling your calling in life.
2. Don’t follow your feelings.
F. Keep an anxiety and prayer journal.
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Books Fitzpatrick, Elyse, Overcoming Fear, Worry and Anxiety. Mack, Wayne, The Fear Factor. Mack, Wayne, Homework Manual for Bibical Living Volume 1.
Booklets Adams, Jay, What Do You Do When You Worry All the Time?. Lutz, Susan, Thankfulness: Even When it Hurts. Powlison, David, Worry: Pursuing a Better Path to Peace.
Audios Fitzpatrick, Elyse. “For Women Worriers.” Newheiser, Jim. “Don’t Worry, Be Holy. Matt 6:25-34.” Newheiser, Jim. “How to Have Joy and Peace. Philippians 4:4-7” Scippione, George. “What, Me Worry?”
Supplemental Resources “Worry Homework – Sample Assignments”
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Biblical Counseling: Fear Understanding Fear A. Fear is not necessarily sinful. 1. We are to fear God. Prov 1:7; Ps 90:11; Isa 6:1ff
2. Fear is a reasonable and helpful response to danger. 1 Cor 10:12
B. Fear has physical manifestations. Deut 2:25; Exod 15:16; Isa 35:3-4; 1 Sam 25:37; Gen 27:33
C. Fear can be very damaging. 1. Fear can keep one from fulfilling his duties to God and others. Prov 22:13; 28:1
2. Obsessive-compulsive disorder.
D. Fear becomes sinful when... 1. You fear men more than God. Prov 29:25; Isa 29:13
2. You fail to trust God.
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3. You want control and certainty which belong to God alone.
4. Fear keeps you from fulfilling your responsibilities to God.
E. Keys to overcoming fear. 1. That which is to be most feared, God’s wrath, has been removed by Christ. Matt 10:28;
Heb 2:14-15; 1 John 4:18
2. The Lord is your shepherd. Ps 23
3. The righteous are characterized by boldness, not fear. Prov 28:1; Rev 21:8
4. When facing fears the crucial question is: What does God want you to do?
5. For those who fear imperfection, your perfection is in Christ.
6. Only God possesses certainty and control. You must trust Him. Rom 8:28; Deut 29:29;
Prov 3:23-26
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The Fear of Man A. The fear of man brings a snare. Prov 29:25 1. Fear of another person
2. Fear in the sense of being a “people pleaser” rather than a “God pleaser”:
B. View of God and man becomes distorted 1. When People Are Big and God is Small by Ed Welch
Introduction to Jeremiah 17:5-8
If You Trust in Mankind, You Will Be Cursed A. Don’t rely upon the flesh. Jer 17:5 1. Israel was inclined to trust men. Jer 2:14-19; 46:25 • She claimed to hope in God.
• Yet she was resorting to her own devices. Jer 5:31
• She trusted false prophets. Jer 7:4, 8
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• She sought help from foreign alliances. Isa 31:1-3; Ezek 29:16; 2 Kgs 24:1
• She forgot God’s great deeds of the past, despised God’s gracious promises, and ignored His threats.
2. Man in all of his power and glory is but frail flesh. Jer 17:5a
3. When you trust mankind, your heart is turned away from the Lord. Jer 17:5b; 2:13; 5:23; 3:2, 6-10; 2:20
• He alone is to be the arm of your strength. Jer 27:5; 32:17; Isa 33:2
• Trust in anyone or anything else is nothing less than idolatry (spiritual adultery).
• You violate the greatest commandment. Deut 6:5
B. If you do, your life will wither away. Jer 17:6 1. You will be desolate and hopeless.
2. Such was the condition of Israel as Jeremiah wrote: under God’s curse: exile. Jer 8:13; 11:16; 1:15; 25:9; Deut 28:15ff; 29:22-23; Ezek 17:8-10; 19:10-13
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3. Such is the condition of all humanity apart from divine grace. Ps 129:6
C. Application: like Israel, the church is inclined to unfaithfulness to God. 1. Don’t entrust yourself to people in the world! • Government leaders/military powers. Ps 146:3-5; 44:6; 20:7; Deut 28:52; Isa 31:1-2
• Employers and doctors.
2. Don’t wrongfully entrust yourself to others in relationships. • Family. Ps 27:10; Isa 49:15
• Friendship. Prov 25:19
• Co-dependency (co-idolatry).
Trust God and You Will Be Blessed
Jer 17:7-8
A. Will you entrust yourself to the LORD? Jer 17:7; Ps 31:24 1. Hope in God alone. Prov 3:5-6; Isa 26:3-4 • Repent of all other hopes. John 15:5
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• Acknowledge Him in everything you do.
• Entrust yourself by following His Word. Prov 16:20
• The issue is not mere outward works or ceremony, but your heart!
2. God alone is trustworthy. Ps 27:3; 118:8-9; 40:4; 62:5-6; 22:5; Isa 50:10; Prov 14:26
B. You will flourish. Ps 52:8; 1:3; 92:13-14 1. Your security will be unshakeable. Ps 34:8; Isa 44:4; Phil 1:6; Ezek 47:12
2. When hard times come, you will endure. 2 Cor 4:8-11, 16-18 • There is no promise that those who trust God will avoid trials. Jer 14:1; 42:16
• The believer lives above circumstances.
• These trials are used by God to strengthen you. Heb 12:6-11; Rom 5:3-4
• The remnant will take root and be renewed. Isa 37:31
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3. You will flourish: continually bearing fruit unto the glory of God. John 15:5
Personalize Psalm 23 to Your Counselees A. Believers who are living in fear have lost sight of the fact that the Lord is their Shepherd
B. It’s not about changing circumstances but recognizing that right now the Lord is your Shepherd. Gen 49:24; 48:15; Ps 77:20
1. He cares for you. Ps 23; 2-3
2. He meets your needs. Ps 23:1
3. He feeds you. Ps 23:5
4. He helps you get through the evil times. Ps 23:4
C. Be honest and realistic: You may not be delivered from trials, but God will be with you. 1. Being his sheep does not exempt you from temporary hardship and danger. • The Lord will sustain you through the valley of the shadow of death. Ps 23:4
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• It may be God’s sovereign purpose to let you suffer through that which you were afraid Heb 11:32-40
2. The Good Shepherd Never Leaves You. Exod 3:12; Isa 43:2; John 10:12-13 • Even in hardship your faith does not have to fail
Data Gathering/Interpretation A. Of what is the counselee afraid?
B. Why is the counselee afraid? 1. Past experience (i.e., abuse, etc.).
2. Experiences of others (e.g. friend died of cancer).
C. What is the counselee’s view of God?
Homework for Those Who Fear A. Follow the same assignments as listed in the section on worry.
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B. Learn to trust God, focusing upon the keys to overcoming fear. Prov 3:5-6; Jas 4:13-17
C. Keep a fear journal.
Books Fitzpatrick, Elyse, Overcoming Fear, Worry and Anxiety. Mack, Wayne, The Fear Factor. Mack, Wayne, Homework Manual for Bibical Living Volume 1. Welch, Ed, When People are Big and God is Small.
Booklets Adams, Jay, What Do You Do When Fear Overcomes You? Emlet, Michael R., OCD: Freedom for the Obsessive-Compulsive.
Audios Fitzpatrick, Elyse. “For Women Worriers.” Newheiser, Jim “Don’t Worry, Be Holy. Matt 6:25-34.” Newheiser, Jim “How to Have Joy and Peace. Philippians 4:4-7” Scippione, George. “What, Me Worry?”
Supplemental Resources Gustafson, Darrell. “The Panic ‘Fear’ Attack.” “Fear Homework Assignment Samples” “Solutions to Fear” “Worry Homework – Sample Assignments”
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Temptation Part 1 David’s Catastrophic Sin
2 Sam 11:1-5
A. Temptation follows a pattern. Jas 1:13-15
B. We have come to one of the most tragic chapters in the entire Bible.
C. I thank God for recording this incident in His perfect Word. 1. It shows that the Bible is honest about its heroes. Jer 17:5-6
2. It serves as a warning to us against sin and presumption. 1 Cor 10:12
3. It is instructive about how temptation and sin occur, so that we might be able to resist and escape.
4. It accurately portrays the ugliness and the consequences of sin.
5. It offers hope to the worst of sinners who repents. Ps 32; 51
6. It reminds us that no earthly hero will suffice. We need a better king than David.
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David Falls into Sin A. David did not fall suddenly – there were harbingers to David’s fall. 2 Sam 11:1-2a 1. Rather than seeking and enjoying personal intimacy with one wife, David had acquired many wives for his own power and pleasure. 2 Sam 5:13; Gen 2:18ff; Deut 17:17
2. Apparently prosperity and security had put David off his guard. Prov 30:8-9
3. David drifted into ingratitude and undervaluing the things of God. 2 Sam 12:7-9
4. David was guilty of neglecting his duties as king. 2 Sam 11:1-2a; 10:9ff; 1 Sam 8:20
B. Sin follows a progression - first, sin is conceived in the heart. 2 Sam 11:2b-3; Jas 1:13-14 1. Don’t try to blame God when you are tempted. Jas 1:13-14; Gen 3:12
2. Sin occurs, not because of temptation from the outside, but from within our hearts.
3. David sees beautiful Bathsheba bathing. 2 Sam 11:2a; 1 Sam 16:12
4. Temptation often enters through the “eye-gate”. Gen 3:6; 1 John 2:16; 2 Pet 2:14; Num 15:39
Jas 1:13-14; Mark 7:14-23
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5. David then moves from looking, to entertaining lustful thoughts as he inquires about the bathing woman. 2 Sam 11:3a; Matt 5:28
6. The answer David received should have stopped him in his tracks. 2 Sam 11:3b; 23:39, 34
C. Sinful desire in the heart ultimately results in the tragic act of sin. 2 Sam 11:4; Jas 1 1. David sends for Bathsheba, thus involving others in his crime.
2. He takes her. 2 Sam 12:4, 9, 11; Lev 18:22
3. The description of David’s sin with Bathsheba is succinct. 2 Sam 11:4a
4. Afterwards Bathsheba went home.
D. What responsibility does Bathsheba bear? 1. Shouldn’t she have been more modest, realizing that she could be seen? 1 Tim 2:9
2. Shouldn’t she have refused David’s advances? Deut 22:22-24
3. Her husband Uriah was not afraid to stand up to David. 2 Sam 11:11
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4. It is ironic that she is so concerned about outward ceremonial cleanness while violating the seventh commandment against adultery. 2 Sam 11: 4b; Lev 15:25ff
E. Finally sin brings forth deadly consequences. 2 Sam 11:5; Jas 1:15b; Prov 6:32-33; 7:26ff; Deut 22:22 1. The conception of a child, which should be an occasion for great joy, is seen as a tragedy. 1 Sam 1:19ff; Ps 127:1ff
2. David’s attempts to cover up his guilt will only compound his sin. 2 Sam 11:6ff; Num 32:23
3. David’s sin will affect him and many others for the rest of his life. Gal 6:7ff
4. Sexual sin is not merely a private matter which involves only two people.
How Can We Avoid Falling into Sin? A. Be on your guard. 1. Don’t think that it can’t happen to you. 1 Cor 10:12; 1 Pet 5:8
2. Guard your heart. Prov 4:23
3. Guard your eyes. 2 Tim 2:22
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4. Also protect your thoughts. Phil 4:8-9
5. Neglect of the small things can lead to a big fall. Jas 1:15
6. Don’t think that you can toy with sin without experiencing the consequences.
7. Sinful desire indulged will produce sinful acts.
8. Don’t be a stumbling block to others.
B. Nurture your own relationship with the Lord - don’t let your love for Him grow cold. Matt 22:37; 2 Tim 2:22; Rev 2:5; Rom 8:13
1. If you are walking closely with God, you will not be vulnerable to sin. Gen 39:9
2. Remember who you are. Rom 6:11; Col 3:5
3. Pray that He will keep you from temptation. Matt 6:13; Luke 22:40; Jude 24
C. Stay busy fulfilling God’s calling on your life. Col 3:23; 2 Tim 1:6
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1. You are especially vulnerable to temptation when you are negligent of your duties. 1 Thess 5:7
2. Stay busy in your vocation, in your family and in your church.
D. Guard your marriage. Gen 2:18ff; Eph 5:22ff; Prov 5:15ff; 1 Cor 7:2ff; Song of Songs
E. If you have started to give in to temptation, abort the sin before it is too late. Gen 39:6ff; 2 Tim 2:22; Matt 5:29-30; Rom 6:12-14; 8:13; 1 Cor 10:13
1. At every stage David could have chosen to turn from his sin. Job 31:1
2. Take radical action to kill your sin before it kills you. Matt 5:29ff; Rom 8:13
3. Seek accountability.
4. The longer you wait, the worse the consequences will become.
F. God offers hope and grace to fallen sinners. 1. The significance of David’s’ fall goes beyond merely warning us about temptation. 1 Cor 10:11
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2. David, for all of his excellent qualities, was not able to fulfill God’s covenant.
3. We need someone greater than David to be our King.
4. Jesus is the Son of David who never sins or fails. He is a King who gives.
5. Jesus comes to the aid of those who are tempted. Heb. 2:18
6. Jesus forgives those who confess and forsake their sin. 1 John 1:8-10; Ps 32
Audios Newheiser, Jim. “The Pain of Porn.”
Supplemental Resources Newheiser, Jim. “The Pain of Porn.”
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Temptation Part 2 Understanding Temptation A. Review: Temptation follows a pattern. Jas 1:13-15
B. The problem is in the heart. Mark 7:14-23; Prov 4:23; Matt 5:22, 28
C. Addictions are not diseases.
D. God will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able. 1 Cor 10:13
E. Christ has set you free from slavery to sin. Rom 6:11, 18
F. You are responsible to fight sin. Rom 6:12ff
G. Temptation needs to be dealt with radically. Matt 5:29-30; 2 Tim 2:22
H. You need to see that God is most desirable. John 7:38 1. Lady wisdom and madam folly both call out. Prov 9:1-5, 13-18
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2. Temptation never will completely satisfy, only Christ can. Isa 55:1-2
3. Joseph’s example. Gen 39:9
4. As counselors we need to be experiencing this to be able to teach our counselees.
Introduction and Review A. A controversial subject.
B. Substance abuse is a growing problem.
What Does the Bible Say About Drinking A. There is a legitimate use for wine. 1. Wine is a symbol of prosperity, celebration and blessing. Prov 9:2; 3:10; Eccl 9:7; Ps 104:14-15;
Judg 9:13; Joel 3:18
2. While the alcohol content of wine in biblical times was less than modern liquor, it was still potentially intoxicating. John 2:10; Acts 2:15; Luke 7:33-34
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4. There is nothing in the Bible condemning the use of alcoholic beverages in moderation.
B. Drunkenness is sinful and foolish! Prov 20:1; Isa 5:11-12, 22; Eph 5:18; Gal 5:21; Deut 21:20; Rom 13:13; Luke 21:34
1. You harm yourself. Jer 51:7 • You lose control of yourself and become unfit for your responsibilities. Prov 31:4-5
• You will hurt physically. Prov 23:29, 32-35
• You lose financially: destitution. Prov 23:21; 21:17
• You are more prone to indulge in other sins: fighting, sexual immorality, blasphemy, drugs.
2. You hurt others.
3. Ultimately you are sinning against your Creator and Master. 1 Cor 6:9, 19-20
Prov 23:35; 20:1; Gen 19:32ff
C. Why do people abuse intoxicating substances? A problem of the heart. 1. People try to escape reality.
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2. People love pleasure rather than God. Prov 23:31; 2 Tim 3:4; Phil 3:19
3. Ultimately the love of pleasure is idolatry: seeking in substances the satisfaction which can only be found in the LORD. Prov 20:1; Isa 55:1-2; Eccl 2:10-11; Luke 16:25
4. The same applications could be made to people who seek satisfaction in food (gluttony), material things (greed), etc. Prov 23:20-21; 21:17
How Can a Substance Abuser Be Set Free? A. The recovery movement (AA/12 step) is unscientific and unbiblical. (See The Useful Lie, by William L. Playfair, M.D.) 1. AA teaches that substance abuse is a disease: the medical model/recovery. • The alcoholic is born with the disease and is powerless.
• When he is exposed to the substance, he is under control of the addiction.
• The key to recovery is for the abuser to identify oneself as an alcoholic.
• The alcoholic must participate in AA group meetings for the rest of his life.
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• The alcoholic must totally abstain from alcohol.
• The recovery model is also being used for gambling, narcotics, theft, and sexual sin.
• This model of addiction is not supported by medical research (ee Playfair).
2. The Bible teaches that substance abuse is sin: the moral model/redemption. • While it is true that we are all born sinful and that some may be more tempted by some sins than others, we are responsible for rebelling against God’s law.
• People become addicted by making sinful choices. John 8:34; 1 Cor 6:12
• Believers are no longer enslaved to sin (or substances). Rom 6:18
• We find our identity in Christ. 1 Cor 6:9-11
3. AA is a counterfeit religion. • A counterfeit book (and decalogue).
• A counterfeit theology: The Higher Power: “God as you understand Him”
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• A counterfeit anthropology: the disease model, codependency.
• A counterfeit redemption experience: admission that you are an alcoholic.
• A counterfeit identity: alcoholic versus Christian. 1 Cor 6:9-12
• A counterfeit church: fellowship, discipleship, etc.
• Counterfeit evangelism.
4. Is it worthwhile to have “Christian” 12-step programs? Lev 18:3ff; Col 2:3, 8-10
5. Should we encourage unbelievers to go into 12-step programs?
B. Biblical “recovery” from substance abuse. Eph 5:18; 4:22-24; Rom 13:13-14 1. Put off sin. Do not get drunk with wine. Rom 13:13; 1 Pet 4:3 • Repent: 2 Cor 7:10-11
• Look to God to forgive you through Christ. 1 John 1:8-2:2
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• As a new creature in Christ. Old things have passed away. 2 Cor 5:17; 1 Cor 6:11
• You are no longer a slave to sin. Rom 6:18
• Live a life of sobriety and self control. Gal 5:23; 1 Cor 6:12
2. Put on righteousness. Be filled with the Spirit. Rom 13:14; 6:18; Gal 5:16 • Be controlled by the Holy Spirit instead of substances.
• Find your pleasure and satisfaction in Christ’s spiritual blessings. Isa 55:3
• Enjoy earthly blessings in moderation to the glory of God with thankfulness. Prov 25:16;
1 Tim 4:4-5; 1 Cor 10:31
• Invest your time and energy in your God-given vocation. Eph 5:15-18
C. Practice biblical confrontation/discipline. Matt 18:15-20 1. Level 1: Self-control.
2. Level 2: Personal confrontation: 1 on 1. Matt 18:15; Gal 6:1; Eph 4:15
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3. Level 3: Confrontation with 2 or 3 witnesses. Matt 18:16
4. Level 4: Tell it to the church. Matt 18:17a
5. Level 5: Excommunication. Matt 18:17b-20; 1 Cor 5:11; 6:9-10
6. After repentance there is restoration. 2 Cor 2:5-11
D. Does the biblical method always work? Sometimes people choose to remain in sin.
Concluding Applications A. Make wise personal choices with alcoholic beverages. 1. Don’t abuse your liberty by becoming intoxicated or breaking the law.
2. Don’t be enslaved to your appetites. Be self-controlled. 1 Cor 6:12; 9:27
3. If your conscience is not clear, it is better to abstain. Rom 14:23; 1 Cor 10:31
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4. Don’t put yourself into situations in which you might be tempted to misuse alcohol.
• Don’t assume that it couldn’t happen to you. 1 Cor 10:12; Gen 9:20ff
5. Don’t abuse your liberty by causing a weaker brother to stumble. Rom 14:21; Gal 5:13; 1 Cor 8:13
Prov 23:30a; 1 Cor 10:12; 1 Pet 2:16; Matt 5:29-30
• Evil companions. Prov 23:20; 1 Pet 4:3; 1 Cor 15:33
B. The key issue is your heart. Prov 4:2
Data Gathering A. What is the counselee’s history in dealing with this temptation?
B. What is the counselee’s pattern of falling into this temptation?
C. Are you sure the counselee is a Christian?
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Homework A. Keep a temptation log.
B. Radically deal with sources of temptation. Matt 5:29-30; Prov 5:8; 2 Tim 2:22
C. Fill your mind with what is best. Phil 4:8-9
D. Be busy serving God and others.
E. Establish accountability.
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Books Cleveland, Mike, Pure Freedom: Breaking the Addiction to Pornography. Cleveland, Mike, The Lord’s Table: A Biblical Approach to Weight Loss. Fitzpatrick, Elyse, Love to Eat, Hate to Eat. Harris, Joshua, Not Even a Hint. Piper, John, Sex and the Supremacy of Christ. Mack, Wayne, Homework Manual for Biblical Living, Volume 1, “Life Dominating Sins.” Playfair, William L. M.D., The Useful Lie. Welch, Edward, Addictions: A Banquet in the Grave.
Booklets Adams, Jay, What Do You Do When You Know You’re Hooked? Powlison, David, Pornography: Slaying the Dragon. Welch, Edward, Just One More: When Desires Don’t Take No for an Answer.
Audios Fitzpatrick, Elyse. “Love to Eat, Hate to Eat.” Mack, Wayne. “Dealing with Lustful Temptation.” Needham, Bob. “Drug and Alcohol Abuse.” Newheiser, Jim. “Satisfaction for the Thirsty: Isa. 55.” Newheiser, Jim. “Sexual Wisdom: Proverbs 5-7.” Newheiser, Jim. “The Pain of Porn.” Playfair. “Helping Addicts.” Playfair. “Helping Alcoholics.” Playfair. “The Twelve Steps and AA.” Scipione, George. “Life Dominating Sins.” Welch, Ed. “Substance Abuse Counseling.”
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Understanding the Influences of Nature and Nurture Introduction A. What is wrong with Connie?
B. To what extent does our body (nature) and relationships (nurture) affect our hearts?
C. My growth in understanding of the influences on the human heart.
Understanding Human Nature A. We are duplex creatures – our inner self is embodied. Gen 2:7; 2 Cor 4:16; 5:8; Phil 2:3; Matt 22:32; Rev 6:10
1. The inner person – referred to as the heart, soul, mind, spirit. Deut 6:5; Heb 4:12
2. The outer person – the body (including the brain).
3. Secular materialism denies the existence of the soul.
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B. We exist in the context of society – we are socially embedded duplex creatures.
Understanding How Your Outer Self (Nature/Body) Influences Your Heart A. Both your inner person and your outward person are affected by the Fall. Rom 8:7-8, 20-23, 6:23; 1 Cor 2:14
1. Our bodies experience weakness, which is not sinful. Matt 26:40; John 9:1ff
2. Some bodily weaknesses are temporary, while others are lifelong.
B. Your inner self influences the body. Ps 38:1-8; Prov 17:22; 14:30; Luke 6:43-44 1. Sin often has physical effects. Ps 32:3-4
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2. Your body reflects your heart – facial expression, tone of voice, pulse, etc.
3. The inner person of a Christian keeps the flesh under control. Rom 6:11-13
4. The body carries out the desires of the heart. Luke 6:45; Col 1:21; 2 Cor 5:10
C. Your body influences your inner person. 1. What happens in the body can affect you spiritually. Job 2:4-6
2. Bodily trials and weakness (including brain issues) may increase temptation.
D. Your body can never cause your heart to sin. Genetics are not determinative. 1. Sin comes from within. Mark 7:14-23; Jas 1:13-15
2. God will not allow an external temptation greater than we can bear. 1 Cor 10:13
3. The inner self chooses how to respond to bodily temptation. Prov 4:20-23
E. Things to keep in mind when counseling.
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1. Bodily issues should not be ignored, but compassionately understood.
2. Distinguish between bodily weakness (including brain malfunction) and sin.
3. The opinion of a medical doctor may be helpful.
4. You may need to learn about Alzheimer’s, dementia, brain injury, stroke, schizophrenia, autism (Asperger’s), bi-polar, etc.
5. When in doubt, assume the best. 1 Cor 13:7
6. People with brain injury or weakness may need to humbly accept their limitations and learn to trust God and those who love them. Prov 3:5-6
F. Encouraging people who struggle with bodily weakness. 1. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Ps 139:13-16
2. God is sovereign over your bodily trials. Job 2:1-8; John 9:3
3. Bodily weakness cannot hold you back from spiritual growth. 2 Cor 12:7-10
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4. Through Christ we can do all things to which God has called us in spite of physical limitations. Phil 4:13; Prov. 20:12; Rom 6:17; 1 Cor 10:31
5. One day we will have perfect bodies (including our brains). Phil 3:20-21
Understanding How Your Social Context Affects Your Heart A. God created us to be social creatures. Gen 1:27-28; 2:18; Luke 10:29-37
B. We live in a fallen world and are surrounded by many evil influences. 1 John 5:19 1. Israel was warned against corrupt pagan neighbors. Deut 7:1-4; 5:9-10; 18:9
2. Proverbs warns us against foolish companions and the fear of man – peer pressure. Prov 1:10ff; 13:20; 23:20-21; 29:25
3. The New Testament contains similar warnings about the company you keep. 1 Cor 15:33; 2 Cor 6:14ff; Rom 12:1ff
4. Some people are hurt by social influences which are beyond their control.
C. We also can be affected positively by those who are godly and wise. Phil. 3:17; Luke 6:40; Acts 4:13; Heb 13:7; 6:12; Prov 13:20; 29:15; 6:4; John 13:15; 1 Pet 2:21
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D. Social influences are not determinative – the heart chooses. Ezek 18:5-18 1. We can reject good/wise influences. Ezek 18:5-13; Matt 10:32-37; 1 Kgs 12:1ff
2. We can overcome evil influences. Ezek 18:14-18; 1 Pet 1:14-19; Eph 4:18ff
E. Counseling people who deal with difficult social/relationship influences. 1. Relational experiences should not be ignored, but compassionately understood. Rom 12:15;
Prov 20:5
2. Counselees cannot blame their sin on outside influences. 1 Cor 10:13; Mark 7:14ff
3. Help counselees to biblically evaluate the influences in their lives and to take appropriate corrective steps (including overcoming the fear of man). Prov 29:25
4. One’s relationship with God should be the primary influence in life. Those who trust Him will flourish in all circumstances. Jer 17:5-8; Ps 27:10; Heb 13:5
5. We can enjoy the blessed influence of God’s people in the church community.
6. Learn from Joseph, who flourished despite his dysfunctional family. Gen 37-50
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Conclusion
2 Cor 4:7-10, 16-18
A. Biblical counselors address the inner man using God’s Word.
B. While we reject both genetic determinism and social determinism, we recognize that the Bible teaches that both body and social environment influence the inner person.
Books Fitzpatrick, E. & Hendrickson, L., Will Medicine Stop the Pain? Welch, Ed, Blame it on the Brain.
Supplemental Resources Emlet, Michael, “Understanding the Influences on the Human Heart,” Journal of Biblical Counseling (Winter, 2002).
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Appendix CDC Certification Forms For the most updated information please see www.ibcd.org/cdc
IBCD Care & Discipleship Certification Level 1 Exam Instructions These are open Bible, open note exams. The purpose is not to be exhaustive, but to demonstrate that you understand the material as presented in the Care & Discipleship Course and can rightly apply the Scriptures to these issues. Please make sure your name is included on your answers to this exam. Short Answer These six questions should be answered in about 250 words each, which is approximately half of a single-spaced, typed page. 1. What are the unscriptural presuppositions of psychology?
2. Why is calling sins a disease (such as calling drunkenness “alcoholism”) a problem when trying to counsel biblically?
3. What does it mean that the Bible is “sufficient” for counseling?
4. Explain the appropriate boundaries of confidentiality in biblical counseling/discipleship.
5. Explain how to use both the indicative (what God has done for us) and the imperative (what God commands us to do) in counseling.
6. Summarize how you would help someone understand trials biblically using James 1:2-8.
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Case Studies • These four questions should be answered in about 500 words each, which is approximately ¾ of a single-spaced, typed page. This cannot be comprehensive but should cover the most important aspects of biblical counsel. • Answers can be in bullet point format or prose. • The percentages indicate the approximate proportion of your answer. This is just a helpful guide, not an exact requirement. • Answer the questions according to the information that should be conveyed in each situation. Your answers can reflect the assumption that the counselor is the appropriate gender for the scenario. 7. Mary is worried about many things: her husband may lose his job, one of her children may have a serious learning disability, and her father is very sick and may die. a. What questions should be asked of her? (25%) b. What counsel (including indicatives and imperatives) should be given from Scripture? Also clearly indicate what hope can be given to her. (50%) c. What homework could be given to Mary? (25%) 8. John is struggling with depression. He has been unable to sleep at night. He has no energy during the day. He does not want to go on living. a. What questions should be asked of him? (25%) b. What counsel (including indicatives and imperatives) should be given from Scripture? Also clearly indicate what hope can be given to him. (50%) c. What homework could be given to John? (25%) 9. Sam, a 16-year-old boy who helps in your church’s mid-week children’s program is having a terrible time struggling with lust. Sometimes he looks at pornography. He has a girlfriend. a. What questions should be asked of him? (25%) b. What counsel (including indicatives and imperatives) should be given from Scripture? Also clearly indicate what hope can be given to him. (50%) c. What homework could be given to Sam? (25%) 10. Phil and Jane had a major fight three nights ago. Phil was late getting home and did not call to let Jane know. When he did arrive, she blew up at him and he became angry as well. They both said hurtful words to each other. a. What questions should be asked of them? (25%) b. What counsel (including indicatives and imperatives) should be given from Scripture? Also clearly indicate what hope can be given to them. (50%) c. What homework could be given? (25%) Level 1 Exam 1e
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IBCD Care & Discipleship Certification Level 1 Leader Interview Instructions These questions are to be asked of you by a leader in your church who works closely with the pastoral care and discipleship of the congregation. There is no “grade” for these questions, but they are a guide to ensure that your church is aware of what God has been teaching you and how you may be useful to the local body of believers. Be sure to have your church leader sign and date this form when completed. It will be turned in with your CDC Level 1 Application. 1. What are some concepts that you have found helpful in the Care & Discipleship training? 2. What life-experiences have you had that the Lord may use as you help others? 3. Read 1 Timothy 3:1-7. While these are qualifications for elders, the characteristics listed are exemplary for all Christians. In light of those qualifications, what are your strengths and weaknesses at this time? 4. How do you hope to continue to grow in your ability to care for and disciple other believers? 5. What types of needs or situations do you have a particular desire to help?
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